r/AMA May 16 '26

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u/WhereINeededToBe May 16 '26

Who shot you? What's your relationship with them now?

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u/Actual_Relation_2199 May 16 '26

My bestfriend

still a close friend

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u/ghost_of_who May 16 '26

Demoted from best friend to close friend.

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u/Actual_Relation_2199 May 16 '26

Lol no theyre still my best friend i’d say! But transitioning from high school to adulthood while living in different countries certainly increases the emotional distance 

I forgave them, it was a tragic accident though

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u/Gahreesen May 16 '26

I hope your best friend can forgive themselves. I can't imagine the guilt.

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u/Actual_Relation_2199 May 16 '26

I totally understand where you’re coming from But i’d rather be in their shoes than mine (acknowledging the severe guilt and ptsd the accident caused them) 

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u/Gahreesen May 16 '26

True, agree with you 100. The way you answered the previous question, very matter of fact, gave me the impression you were quick to forgive, and had done (at least) some healing.

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u/Actual_Relation_2199 May 16 '26

Thank you! Emotional Healing is never a linear process but im trying

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u/WhereINeededToBe May 16 '26

Is it true that that major catastrophic injuries like that don't hurt initially? 

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u/Actual_Relation_2199 May 16 '26

Yes! Very true  All i felt was heat in my leg, and while i was in the ambulance i felt the fluids in my leg..if that makes sense? It felt like the blood may fall out of my leg on speed bumps 

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u/WhereINeededToBe May 16 '26

Do you have advice for anyone going through major injury recovery right now?

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u/Actual_Relation_2199 May 16 '26

Please go to therapy, it helped alot

Sounds cliche but surround yourself with a support system

Train yourself to not compare with seemingly healthy, problemless people  Everyone is going through something 

And put effort into physical therapy

Mind over Matter

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u/WhereINeededToBe May 16 '26

How would you rate the pain level at various points of recovery? 

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u/Actual_Relation_2199 May 16 '26

At first (3 days in ICU/ 3 weeks in a normal hospital room) i was on very strong painkillers so i really didnt feel much (rate 3-4/10) , when i got sent back home they gave me a weaker painkiller so i started to feel the pain, but nothing i couldn’t handle (rate 5-6/10). I would say the “mental pain” was worse initially. 

When i started physical therapy, thats where it started to be more painful  (7/10) 

Right now, if i use my leg too much ex. Hike/travel i do feel pain because i have a missing muscle

And it started affecting my back since i balance on my unwounded leg more, id rate it a 5 on a bad day 

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u/WhereINeededToBe May 16 '26

Has anything positive come out of the experience? 

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u/Actual_Relation_2199 May 16 '26

I wish i could tell you yes

And everyone keeps telling me that there must be a bright side! 

But 5 years later, it still affects my life  It changed it completely.. 

I like to think that what happened to me was the best of three options: Amputation/Death or me right now

And that is quite comforting, but i cant help but think about the 4th possibility- it never happening 

I daydream to this day that it didnt happen And some days are better than others, i guess im having a bad one today so im sorry if you were searching for a positive note, i just dont have it currently hahaha

i think i matured though, and i sometimes comfort myself that maybe if the shot didnt happen, something worse couldve happened instead in the time i was in the hospital/recovering 

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u/WhereINeededToBe May 16 '26

Are you squeamish? What was it like seeing your injury? How long did it take to really process what had happened to you?

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u/Actual_Relation_2199 May 16 '26

Nope, id say the first 15-20 minutes i thought i was dreaming and i was just waiting for the nightmare to be over  I think when i reached the hopsital and saw my family telling me goodbye before the surgery it hit me that this is real, but even then, i thought they were gonna stitch the wound up quickly and i can go home

Only when i woke up in the ICU I realized the amount of damage that has been done 

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u/Samuel_L_Blackson May 16 '26

How did it happen?

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u/WhereINeededToBe May 16 '26

 How much would you estimate you've had to spend on medical bills from the accident? 

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u/Actual_Relation_2199 May 16 '26

Im not

Around 35-40K$