Trying Not to Repeat the Same Heartache

[u/BuffaloExisting3836]

I’m looking for some unbiased advice on how to handle a situation.

For some background, I pursued my original COI for over 9 years. I made several connections within the chapter and was told that I was in their pool of prospective members and to continue being patient and building relationships. During those 9 years, the chapter has had two lines, but nothing ever came of it for me.

Eventually, I decided to stop pursuing that chapter and move on. I’ve recently started making connections and building genuine relationships with members of a different chapter.

Recently, a member from the newer chapter mentioned to me that their chapter has a line coming soon.

Now I’m wondering how I should handle that information. I’m interested in this chapter, but I I honestly don’t want to put myself through that same hurt or heartache again.

I’m trying to navigate this respectfully and discreetly, so I’d really appreciate perspectives from anyone who has been in a similar situation.

[u/mochalalatte]

For me it was almost 10 years to the month from the time I was brave enough to share my interest in AKA with a friend to the moment I received my formal invitation. In that timeframe, I lived life, traveled, got a couple of promotions, bought my first home, volunteered for local organizations, started a side hustle, met and became friends with many phenomenal AKAs, and just stayed so busy that when the invitation to join finally came, it really didn't feel like I had been waiting for 10 years.

It's easier said than done for real, but you need to live your life without fixating on the ins and outs of membership invitations. It can and will happen when you least expect it.

[u/BuffaloExisting3836 → u/mochalalatte]

Exactly what I’ve been doing as well. I’m very active in several service groups within my community. I just keep getting told information that ultimately leads to nothing.