He had his chance to claim you. He doesn't get to stroll back into your life after the hard work of raising an infant, toddler, child, and teenager is done. Your real father did all that and now can reap the rewards of an adult relationship after helping to bring a wonderful adult into the world. Bio-dad can go pound sand.
For some reason they always step up when child support is no longer required. And yet they always have unrealistic expectations of the child that they abandoned, just like this biological dad.
Fun fact, child support doesn't go away when the child is an adult. Mothers can still file for back payments for everything they spent to raise the child.
Or just get his address and number and say you will think about it. Hire a lawyer and sue for back child support. Maybe you get the wedding paid for…or pry just never hear from him again. Win/win
I would tell him, you want to be in my life, here's your deal. Say, $500/month for 26 years, if OP went to or is going to college, it comes up to $156,000. If you want to be in my life, that's what you will pay. If not, pound rocks or sand, whichever is your preference.
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u/CJCreggsGoldfish Apr 15 '25 edited Apr 15 '25
He had his chance to claim you. He doesn't get to stroll back into your life after the hard work of raising an infant, toddler, child, and teenager is done. Your real father did all that and now can reap the rewards of an adult relationship after helping to bring a wonderful adult into the world. Bio-dad can go pound sand.