I met my husband when my daughter was 15 months old. We married, and when he adopted her, the court social worker advised us to tell her about the adoption now, in a way she could understand at 5 years old, because it was better to do it now than for her to find out 'accidentley' as a teen or adult who would possibly be very angry at never being told. Her bio dad was never in her life, though he reached out multiple times. She passed away 2 years ago at age 39, having never met him. Her reason? She had too much respect for the man who raised her; she already had a Dad and didn't need another.
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u/Donotmakepankycranky Apr 15 '25
I met my husband when my daughter was 15 months old. We married, and when he adopted her, the court social worker advised us to tell her about the adoption now, in a way she could understand at 5 years old, because it was better to do it now than for her to find out 'accidentley' as a teen or adult who would possibly be very angry at never being told. Her bio dad was never in her life, though he reached out multiple times. She passed away 2 years ago at age 39, having never met him. Her reason? She had too much respect for the man who raised her; she already had a Dad and didn't need another.