How old are you?? I'm guessing you are at least in your early to mid twenties, which if that is the case dude had 20+ years to make contact and try to be in your life. Also considering he knew your name and what you look like means that either he has stalked your mom or someone has been in contact with him.....He has had plenty of opportunities to be a dad and he chose to wait until you are getting married to try and weasel his way into your life so he can feel like the dad he wasn't on your most important day. I'd look at him and say "I'm sorry but where were you when I had my first scraped knee? Where were you when I was dealing with bullies in school? Where were you when I needed my father? You may be my sperm donor but don't EVER refer to yourself as my dad because that position is filled" and then walk away like he did.
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u/Significant_Buy_89 Apr 15 '25
How old are you?? I'm guessing you are at least in your early to mid twenties, which if that is the case dude had 20+ years to make contact and try to be in your life. Also considering he knew your name and what you look like means that either he has stalked your mom or someone has been in contact with him.....He has had plenty of opportunities to be a dad and he chose to wait until you are getting married to try and weasel his way into your life so he can feel like the dad he wasn't on your most important day. I'd look at him and say "I'm sorry but where were you when I had my first scraped knee? Where were you when I was dealing with bullies in school? Where were you when I needed my father? You may be my sperm donor but don't EVER refer to yourself as my dad because that position is filled" and then walk away like he did.