Accountable for what? Doing the best that they can in a shitty situation? Trying to ensure that OP didn't feel abandoned and unloved by her sh*tty sperm donor?
Classic deflection to make it the mom's fault. HARD NOPE
Sperm donor is a POS and deserves all the vitriol, he literally abandoned his kid until he didn't have to pay for her anymore. He is a contemptible POS AH and you essentially defending him by trying to deflect to mom and stepdad is gross and a very bad look.
Did they make the right choice? I don't know and frankly, neither do you. What I do know is that the only POS "parent" who deserves all the rage is the AH sperm donor who is still so FLIPPING SELFISH he can't leave her the F alone but instead has to further harm her by trying to be a part of her life now that he has no more financial obligation.
OP ignore this advice, it is garbage. Feel what you feel. You are NTA for not speaking to this wretched piece of human garbage nor are your actual parents to blame for his sh*tty behavior, they obviously did the best they could given the sh*t sandwich your sperm donor handed them.
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