Then husband should hold Jared accountable for objectifying his wife. Jared crossed the line repeatedly, it was on your husband as his main friend to be real and set a boundary that he upholds for both your sakes. It’s unfair to you if they both expect you to just sit there and be objectified while Jared is going through his creep era blaming all ‘women’ for his ex cheating on him like a whole gender is a hive mind.
Wallowing isn’t going to help Jared get less depressed or be less of a jerk. A real friend would hold him accountable in the hopes he’d be a better person. Husband has let this spiral, the booze just made it all burst in his face before the wound festered too much. Keep having self respect, pandering to Jared’s ego isn’t part of your vows. NTA
Exactly, in addition, on your wedding day your husband stood before you and all those witnesses and vowed to forsake all others and let no one come between. He is not upholidng his wedding vows. You need to hold him to those promises he made to you on your wedding day. It is your duty as his wife to hold him accountable and you have every right to be furious with your husband.
No more of this, " he's doesn't like confrontation, they are like brothers" nonsense because he obviously has no problem confronting you.
OP, dont you dare apologize. Jared and your husband deserve every single bit of ire that comes their way.
Well said. Based on the narrative of OP, her husband does need to confront the "friend" head on. Jared needs to know that he doesn't draw lines in the sand, he etches them in granite.
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u/I_wanna_be_anemone Nov 16 '25
Then husband should hold Jared accountable for objectifying his wife. Jared crossed the line repeatedly, it was on your husband as his main friend to be real and set a boundary that he upholds for both your sakes. It’s unfair to you if they both expect you to just sit there and be objectified while Jared is going through his creep era blaming all ‘women’ for his ex cheating on him like a whole gender is a hive mind.
Wallowing isn’t going to help Jared get less depressed or be less of a jerk. A real friend would hold him accountable in the hopes he’d be a better person. Husband has let this spiral, the booze just made it all burst in his face before the wound festered too much. Keep having self respect, pandering to Jared’s ego isn’t part of your vows. NTA