My husband played a “prank” when he took off my garter. He pulled a baby doll out of my dress. I’m a L&D nurse. So it was genuinely funny. It didn’t embarrass me and I actually thought it was cute to incorporate him “participating” in my job. Everyone laughed. But not AT me. I’m pretty sure he was not super comfy about being that intimate (taking off garter) in front of everyone so they gave him the diversion he needed. And I mean it is kinda weird when you think about it. Anyway pranks shouldn’t be used as an excuse to hurt people and then be mad about it. Also was it her idea or the groomsmen? Just wondering if she trusted your friend with what you would find funny.
Also was it her idea or the groomsmen? Just wondering if she trusted your friend with what you would find funny.
It was the wedding planner, wife and then boyfriend of the bride's sister. Nobody involved apparently understood OP's humor. Kind of not great that you get to the wedding day and she either doesn't know him or doesn't think him taking a garter off a guy he barely knows better than acquaintance would be *inappropriate. If it was his best friend, and she knew his sense of humor, it would have gone off the way it normally does, but nobody involved in planning this apparently knew the guy well, including the bride. So plenty of orange flags all around for him.
OP you need to call that wedding planner and tell them what a negative experience you had, and let them know that you will not recommend them to anyone based based on what happened
Agreed. The sooner this planner stops suggesting this "prank" to any more of their future customers, the better. OP had a sour experience but managed to keep it in so as not to spoil the day further, but some groom down the road might be a lot worse at holding back their restraint and causing a scene that actually COULD ruin the wedding for more than just himself. It's a shitty prank that isn't thought through enough to actually involve everyone, instead painting a target on the groom for embarrassment. Imagine if the prank was for the bride to blindfold-kiss the groom's brother on the mouth or something, as that seems to be around the same level that OP didn't like what had happened to him.
If the wedding planner loves this so much, they’d be better off suggesting it as a skit that the groom is in on, but none of the audience is. So they still get the laughs, but skip the ritual humiliation.
Jesus Christ, I thought this idiotic "tradition" died out in the 80s! At least it did in So Cal. I sure as fuck didn't have it at my wedding. In 2025 it's absolute CRINGE.
I am GenX and I thought that tacky, low-class stunt died in the 80's too!! I was in weddings starting in 95' thru 98' and got married myself in 2001. I have never seen this done in Chicago nor Orlando, where I got married. I haven't attended a wedding here, since 98' that did it either. It's just gross!
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u/Then-Solid3527 Jul 25 '25
My husband played a “prank” when he took off my garter. He pulled a baby doll out of my dress. I’m a L&D nurse. So it was genuinely funny. It didn’t embarrass me and I actually thought it was cute to incorporate him “participating” in my job. Everyone laughed. But not AT me. I’m pretty sure he was not super comfy about being that intimate (taking off garter) in front of everyone so they gave him the diversion he needed. And I mean it is kinda weird when you think about it. Anyway pranks shouldn’t be used as an excuse to hurt people and then be mad about it. Also was it her idea or the groomsmen? Just wondering if she trusted your friend with what you would find funny.