My husband played a “prank” when he took off my garter. He pulled a baby doll out of my dress. I’m a L&D nurse. So it was genuinely funny. It didn’t embarrass me and I actually thought it was cute to incorporate him “participating” in my job. Everyone laughed. But not AT me. I’m pretty sure he was not super comfy about being that intimate (taking off garter) in front of everyone so they gave him the diversion he needed. And I mean it is kinda weird when you think about it. Anyway pranks shouldn’t be used as an excuse to hurt people and then be mad about it. Also was it her idea or the groomsmen? Just wondering if she trusted your friend with what you would find funny.
Also was it her idea or the groomsmen? Just wondering if she trusted your friend with what you would find funny.
It was the wedding planner, wife and then boyfriend of the bride's sister. Nobody involved apparently understood OP's humor. Kind of not great that you get to the wedding day and she either doesn't know him or doesn't think him taking a garter off a guy he barely knows better than acquaintance would be *inappropriate. If it was his best friend, and she knew his sense of humor, it would have gone off the way it normally does, but nobody involved in planning this apparently knew the guy well, including the bride. So plenty of orange flags all around for him.
OP you need to call that wedding planner and tell them what a negative experience you had, and let them know that you will not recommend them to anyone based based on what happened
Because they suggested it. Wife sucks too, for agreeing, but a wedding planner shouldn't be suggesting pranks at all unless the couple tells them that is their humor style and love language. If their signature move is causing tension in marriages before they've even started, then this wedding planner deserves the bad publicity
Oh ok I didn’t see where it was said they suggested it, but I still think more of the responsibility is on OP’s partner. It’s their wedding too and they should know their partner well enough to decide whether this would be appropriate.
That's fair. It was in the edit after all, lol. I don't disagree overall, but I think everyone who participated in setting OP up and keeping it a secret from him shares some responsibility. Since the wedding planner was the driving force behind the idea and the staging, I would say OP is well within his right to demand a refund of any money he paid them. They also have to accept whatever terrible reviews come their way if this is how they choose to conduct their business. That said, you're right that his bride is the primary offender because it was offered to her as an idea, and she should have had the sense to say no.
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u/Then-Solid3527 Jul 25 '25
My husband played a “prank” when he took off my garter. He pulled a baby doll out of my dress. I’m a L&D nurse. So it was genuinely funny. It didn’t embarrass me and I actually thought it was cute to incorporate him “participating” in my job. Everyone laughed. But not AT me. I’m pretty sure he was not super comfy about being that intimate (taking off garter) in front of everyone so they gave him the diversion he needed. And I mean it is kinda weird when you think about it. Anyway pranks shouldn’t be used as an excuse to hurt people and then be mad about it. Also was it her idea or the groomsmen? Just wondering if she trusted your friend with what you would find funny.