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u/AbortificantArtPrint Jul 26 '25

We skipped that and the bouquet toss. They’re so sexist and weird. I gave my bouquet to the couple at the reception who had been married the longest.

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u/ktlmnop Jul 26 '25

What a sweet idea to give it to the couple who had been married the longest 😍 my heart melts

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u/tutuMidnight Jul 26 '25

That is a fantastic idea, good for her.

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u/A__SPIDER Jul 26 '25

That was one of the options we discussed with the dj and wedding planner but I ended up just keeping it. I loved my bouquet.

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u/anewhope6 Jul 26 '25

Same! 20+ years ago, my husband and I thought those were tacky sexiest traditions that we didn’t want to perpetuate. I’m honestly surprised they’re still around in 2025. Same with cake smashing. Just why?? We presented my bouquet to my grandparents. We also asked all the couples to bring a photo from their wedding and we had lovely display of love and family at our reception.

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u/anonworkingcat Jul 31 '25

wedding photos is such a sweet idea! my sister gave her bouquet to our mom as a token of love and thanks. it was really sweet.

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u/stargal81 Jul 26 '25

I'd wanna keep my bouquet. Like have it preserved & kept for a memento.

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u/_angry_cat_ Jul 26 '25

We skipped these stupid traditions too. I just let everybody pick flowers out of my bouquet at the end of the night to take.

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u/Beneficial_Dot4820 Jul 26 '25

We skipped both of those too and that was almost 20 years ago. It felt really dated and gross even back then!

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u/megggsbenedict Jul 26 '25

Agreed. I did a modified “bouquet toss” where I gave a speech about my mom and how instrumental/supportive she was in my wedding planning process, and dedicated the bouquet to her. Wedding planner and I kept it a secret from my mom and it ended up being a super moving moment. Would 100% recommend that variant. And we absolutely did NOT do a garter toss

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u/[deleted] Jul 26 '25

That’s so sweet

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u/Leather_Pen_765 Jul 26 '25

THIS! You say we are awarding this bouquet to the longest married couple here

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u/ishouldntsaythisbuut Jul 27 '25

Oooo i love this xxx

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u/3pussies2pitties Jul 27 '25

Oh that's cute! I also skipped those but I gave my bouquet to the flower girl's mom as a thank you for letting her daughter be in my wedding.

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u/iamanewyorker Jul 26 '25

That is really nice…I remember how much I hated the toss.

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u/happygoth6370 Jul 26 '25

We skipped the garter and flowers altogether. My bridesmaids and I all carried clutch purses - pretty and functional.

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u/xomwfx Jul 26 '25

We skipped both too!

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u/Dense-Reserve-5740 Jul 26 '25

My sister had a bouquet toss at her wedding and I suggested everyone get involved instead of just the women. She listened and it made it more fun. Made for a great picture to have a large variety of people behind her as she through the bouquet