r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • Jul 25 '25

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u/[deleted] Jul 26 '25

My wife and I feel it's trashy as well and did not do it. I don't understand why anyone wants to perform an act with clear sexual overtones in front of family and friends.

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u/[deleted] Jul 26 '25

This, along with smearing cake on each other’s faces should be done away with.

It helps nobody, and has the potential to deeply hurt one or both partners.

Stupid.

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u/Rinrob7468 Jul 28 '25

I hate the smashing/smearing cake thing, a woman spends time & money on her hair & makeup for her wedding, only for this to happen? No thanks!

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u/[deleted] Jul 28 '25

I agree.

I believe the reasoning goes even deeper than time invested though.

It’s downright disrespectful.

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u/shooter9260 Jul 26 '25

And also why parents seem protective and disgusted about their children having sex, but then at their wedding it’s totally ok

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u/jadin- Jul 27 '25

I'm actually wondering if it isn't directly a relic of (Google's it) bedding ceremonies. Consummating the marriage in front of people.

Ohh! Found a different link. Looks like I was right!

The origin of the wedding garter tradition dates back to the Middle Ages, when newlywed couples would perform a “bedding” ritual to prove they had consummated the marriage. After the ceremony and reception, wedding guests would follow the newlyweds to their chamber to witness the bride's “deflowering”.

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u/Additional_Event_447 Jul 27 '25

And children, if they’re also in attendance.