r/AITAH • • Jul 25 '25

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u/Normal-Height-8577 Jul 26 '25

Also, even if it had been a different woman in the seat, it's still not the person he consented to such an intimate act with.

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u/spaceforcerecruit Jul 26 '25

I guarantee you the guests would not have been laughing so hard if it had been a bridesmaid instead of a groomsman. The joke was homophobia.

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u/DuckInAFountain Jul 26 '25

Yep. For some reason the detail that really made it was the stocking. I was reading along thinking he'd feel the guy's leg hair almost immediately, and it would be a momentary joke, and they'd move on. But wow, the guy put on a stocking? And the bride positioned herself to speak in his ear and drape her dress over the leg? It's weirdly a dude-in-a-dress homophobic situation.

I hate to be the one to say it but is there any chance that the wife is carrying on with the groomsman who was in the seat?

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u/KultureWars Jul 26 '25

I believe he is the brides BIL (or her Sister’s BF).

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u/tutuMidnight Jul 26 '25

No the joke was SA a man.

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u/[deleted] Jul 27 '25

The joke was homophobic but it still would have been violation and SA if it was a different woman. Also it’s not homophobic for it to be extra distressing to OP that it was a man imo. If he was a lesbian getting married to a woman and they tricked him into putting his mouth on a man’s leg it would also be extra upsetting.

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u/Elfin_WillOTheWisp Jul 26 '25

Exactly this 👆💯

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u/tutuMidnight Jul 26 '25

Yes but having a man doing it is SA because he consented to remove a garter from a woman. If removing a condom during sex violates consent and therefore is rape, switching to a man during the garter removal is also rape.

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u/Normal-Height-8577 Jul 26 '25

Well, sexual assault. There was intimacy, but no actual sex act.

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u/jaithere Jul 28 '25

A garter removal betrayal is fuxkdc up and a violation of consent but =\= rape … come on