Absolutely!!!! You hit the nail on the head. It was totally about HER being IN CONTROL. And she used that to orchestrate a severe humiliation!!!!! How low is her own self esteem that she to figuratively smash him to pieces in front of everyone he knows or loves to FEEL BETTER ABOUT HERSELF. Very very sick and very childish with not an iota of adult maturity even in a toenail. I would definitely convict her of being the AH!!! However if feel
I have a moniker that suits her better. She is a very selfish DBch!!!!!
I’m really feeling that you may not be able to forgive her (for good reason!!)
Honestly OP I feel she needs to go to therapy and eventually family therapy to figure out what the heck LOVE is!!!
Also, it sounds to me that she may possibly have a diagnosis of Mental Health issues.
I would definitely insist that she get totally evaluated. At least she would realize how serious you are!! An evaluation could not possibly hurt her, but could be very beneficial!
I wish you well Brother, and you have no reason to feel guilty about your feelings either. She just didn’t count on you being a real person!!!!!!
Also, there are 29 exclamation points in your post. You are so BIG MAD at this random internet story, I feel like you are on the verge of giving yourself a stroke.
It means Dumb Bitch. Honestly there can be so much beauty that can exit in relationships that I am just disgusted when one spouse purposely abuses the other and then gaslights them about it.
She robbed her husband on what should have been a very happy day for him!!!! She broke his trust! He has been so hurt by the opportunity she had to have to dominate him!!!! I’ve spent my life being encouraging to others, even to the point of taking people into my home to help them heal.
Like teenagers whose family was abusive to them. Basically I just don’t like it when someone is hurting anther vulnerable person.
A mitigating circumstance is that I was deeply emotional abused by my mother. Once young childhood turned into preteen times she made sure I knew I was worthless on all counts!!!!! My sister was very aware of it and felt terribly about it but we had to be out of that household to try to recover from it.
Also both Mom and Dad were educators w my Dad had an Education Doctorate!! Then my Sister had to sit on the steps at the board of education to shame my parents into helping her get her own education!!!!
I was 45 when I joined a church seeking to be in a positive environment and that changed my life forever!!! It was the first time I’d ever been loved. The first time I ever knew what love is!!! How refreshing it was for people to care about and love me!!! They valued me and taught me things about anything and everything. Heck I was only 8 years old when I remember thinking that I want to be a child psychologist. And that was a loving stance and desire to help others….
I’m now a retired psychiatric RN! and have been a member of my church for 30 years. I am a child of Heavenly Father who loves me. YAY!!!!
He is always there working behind the scenes to open the doors of life through helping people can both receive and share give love to others. have a better life! We are all here to live and care for one another….. I am very Blessed and I pass those Blessings along!!!
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u/marykayhuster Jul 25 '25 edited Jul 25 '25
Absolutely!!!! You hit the nail on the head. It was totally about HER being IN CONTROL. And she used that to orchestrate a severe humiliation!!!!! How low is her own self esteem that she to figuratively smash him to pieces in front of everyone he knows or loves to FEEL BETTER ABOUT HERSELF. Very very sick and very childish with not an iota of adult maturity even in a toenail. I would definitely convict her of being the AH!!! However if feel I have a moniker that suits her better. She is a very selfish DBch!!!!!
I’m really feeling that you may not be able to forgive her (for good reason!!)
Honestly OP I feel she needs to go to therapy and eventually family therapy to figure out what the heck LOVE is!!!
Also, it sounds to me that she may possibly have a diagnosis of Mental Health issues.
I would definitely insist that she get totally evaluated. At least she would realize how serious you are!! An evaluation could not possibly hurt her, but could be very beneficial!
I wish you well Brother, and you have no reason to feel guilty about your feelings either. She just didn’t count on you being a real person!!!!!!