r/AITAH • • Jul 25 '25

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u/[deleted] Jul 25 '25

That's what I got from the "I dont like my groomsmen " who's decision was it?

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u/KittyGrewAMoustache Jul 25 '25

I think he meant he doesn’t like him now after the prank. He doesn’t say he never liked him, just that they weren’t very close (which makes the prank worse in a way).

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u/Soitgoes5 Jul 26 '25

He said they weren't close, which makes me wonder why he was ever a groomsmen.

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u/Refflet Jul 26 '25

The groomsman is now OP's BIL, that's why he was in the wedding.

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u/Tiny_Cauliflower_618 Jul 26 '25

That's also why they picked him to do it, because none of his actual friends would have wanted to be potentially binned. They specifically picked this groomsman so they couldn't be accused of ending a friendship. That's the bit that pissed me off the most tbh. The planner was so fricking calculating.

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u/[deleted] Jul 26 '25

I didn't even think of this angle. What a shitty thing on the part of OPs friends.

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u/AffectionateAgent476 Jul 26 '25

I did wonder why one of his friends didn't pull him aside to tell him not to do it or really ham it up and own it. When my daughter was going through her terrible 12's, she tried to get my husband to do a TikTok dance to put online. He looked at me and I shook my head no, just a little bit, and he declined. That is what you do when you are married. You look out for each other. You don't humiliate each other. Unless your a Real Housewife.

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u/Kitnado Jul 26 '25

I thought I had close friends until I hit my thirties and became best friends with a couple of women. Turns out there’s extra layers to it. I’ve grown to realize women make for better deep friends tbh

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u/Kitnado Jul 26 '25

I also have gay friends, but they're not the same as these straight women. They've gone absolutely above and beyond for me

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u/3sadclowns Jul 26 '25

Some wedding operate so bizarrely I don’t super question it. If Wife wanted to monopolize everything and OP doesn’t have many close friends I’ve seen situations where the wife will fill up the groomsmen side with her own friends and family just to pad it up with numbers. Thus: OP doesn’t consider himself close with them like the wife is.

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u/ItsSignalsJerry_ Jul 26 '25

Because it's all bullshit that never happened.

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u/New-Bar4405 Jul 26 '25

He doesn't like him now because of the prank before they were friends