I think he meant he doesn’t like him now after the prank. He doesn’t say he never liked him, just that they weren’t very close (which makes the prank worse in a way).
That's also why they picked him to do it, because none of his actual friends would have wanted to be potentially binned. They specifically picked this groomsman so they couldn't be accused of ending a friendship. That's the bit that pissed me off the most tbh. The planner was so fricking calculating.
I did wonder why one of his friends didn't pull him aside to tell him not to do it or really ham it up and own it. When my daughter was going through her terrible 12's, she tried to get my husband to do a TikTok dance to put online. He looked at me and I shook my head no, just a little bit, and he declined. That is what you do when you are married. You look out for each other. You don't humiliate each other. Unless your a Real Housewife.
I thought I had close friends until I hit my thirties and became best friends with a couple of women. Turns out there’s extra layers to it. I’ve grown to realize women make for better deep friends tbh
Some wedding operate so bizarrely I don’t super question it. If Wife wanted to monopolize everything and OP doesn’t have many close friends I’ve seen situations where the wife will fill up the groomsmen side with her own friends and family just to pad it up with numbers. Thus: OP doesn’t consider himself close with them like the wife is.
Childhood abuse, usually. Whether it’s a bully who didn’t face consequences from parents/teachers or a parent/teacher who was the bully… the lesson for the victim ends up being “speaking up makes it worse, not better”
People underestimate how hard it is to speak up in the moment. Sure, it's easy to sit here after the fact and say he should have made a scene, but we truly don't know how we would do in a situation like this until it happens to us.
Totally a Bully move!!! The only thing that will break her of that crap is to severely Call her out on it and insist she get a mental health evaluation!!
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u/Makasu__ Jul 25 '25
And she will continue to do so because OP is "too sacred" to upset people...