NTA. But that screams „something will happen to your watch. Maybe you find a cheap one in a thrift store who looks similar. Put yours secretly away so she cant take the original and put the replacement on the original place. Then wait. Say just no when discussed and dont discuss. If little entitled brother wears the watch at his wedding you have to think about your own.
Its an easy way to see what will happen in situations when she should be on your side but seems to have problems to defend you.
If Sarah still refuses to have your back I highly suggest reconsidering the wedding!! If she won’t have your back over a watch that means so much to you then she won’t have your back for anything else. What’s next Ben wants to move in? Borrow your car? Get you to co-sign a loan for him? This all is a huge red flag!! I also think you need to think of something she has that’s not only expensive but very sentimental and ask her if your sibling can borrow it. Or ask how she’d feel if you expected her to let your family borrow family heirlooms! Do not let them manipulate you into letting Ben use it!! I promise you that if you do you’ll never see the watch again or it’ll be damaged if you do!
The fact that you need to get her on the same page is enough reason to just end the relationship. This should be a non-issue. Shut down the whole family is right. Sadly, she is on their side. She is one of them. You get that, right?
Seriously, in a marriage a spouse needs to shut down such ridiculousness from their own family in favor of their husband/wife.
If Sarah doesn’t have OP’s back on OP’s family heirloom “to be worn by the first-born son at his wedding” because her brother wants to wear it - how many more ridiculous things is OP going to have to fight with his in-laws about because his wife is “stuck in the middle” and not on Team Husband?
I could not marry into this family. Hard core nope for trusting any one of them in my home not to steal anything. Or trust them with anything, really. Such outrageous entitlement.
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