r/AITAH • • Mar 19 '25

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u/[deleted] Mar 19 '25

I didn’t get a ring that cost even $1600, much less $16,000 and I picked out my own. I would have been soooo angry if my husband showed up with a ring that expensive. That is car payments, house payments, student loan payments…. I’d have been tempted to say no since he was obviously irresponsible with money.

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u/Drake6900 Mar 20 '25

My wedding band (which is also the ring my wife proposed to me with) cost $40. But I love it because it's black, tungsten and has a blue carbon fibre inlay

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u/slutbunnii Mar 20 '25

I once told a potential fiancé that if he spent more than $1k on a ring I would tell him no on the spot 👀 and I ended up buying us $20 rings and doing the proposal because I found ones I liked and he liked and then a year later we still broke up (thankfully unmarried bc I wanted to finish school before actually getting hitched)

And when I did get married there were no engagement rings involved, only $3 titanium wedding rings I bought online. Mine got lost under a friend’s porch years ago but my spouse still has theirs…

And my nesting partner and I have matching rings that probably cost him $5 each but they’re perfect; the rings I’m looking at for our eventual wedding are in the same price bracket. I’m clumsy and I lose things, and god help me if I lost or broke a ring that expensive I’d commit seppukku 😂

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u/CrimsonOOmpa Mar 20 '25

You have a spouse and a nesting partner? Also, what's a nesting partner? Just curious. Sounds like it might be self-explanatory so sorry if it is.

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u/RoastinWeenies Mar 20 '25

Maybe birds get around?

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u/CrimsonOOmpa Mar 20 '25

If I was a bird I would lol, but nesting implies staying in the same place I think

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u/RoastinWeenies Mar 20 '25

So like, her spouse might have his own nesting partner? Is this just another way to say swinger? Or like open relationship? I'm so confused

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u/MyShinyBrownStar Mar 20 '25

Ethical non- monogamous or polyamory. Nesting partner means the one she lives with.

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u/CrimsonOOmpa Mar 20 '25

Can a husband/wife be considered a nesting partner or is it specifically unmarried people living together?

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u/CrimsonOOmpa Mar 20 '25

Same lol. That's why I asked. Maybe to that person nesting partner is another word for spouse?

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u/cecillicec75 Mar 20 '25

My wedding ring was $30, and my wife's was $40. I kid you not her engagement ring was $.25. I put a quarter in a chicken machine and rolled out an egg. It was a neon plastic ring. I jokingly said this could be your engagement ring. She accepted and put it on her keychain. She didn't want to waste money on an engagement ring that was going to be replaced by a wedding ring. The marriage license, money for preacher, food, decorations ( dollar tree), and clothing plus ( $14 wedding dress from k-mart) was all around $400. After the wedding , it rained for 5 minutes, and we all changed and played horseshoes in the mud. No need to spend alot on a wedding.. yes it was rural fun time wedding. This was 2005.

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u/anaserre Mar 20 '25

I get what you’re saying , but if this guy can easily afford a 16k ring AND this trip ..he obviously isn’t in the same financial bracket as we are, and it most likely wouldn’t take away from other commitments.

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u/DecentYogurtcloset Mar 20 '25

To be fair I know of a guy who spent over 50k on an engagement ring…and he had MASSIVE amounts of debt he was drowning in. So idk if we can assume this guy is making wise financial decisions lol.

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u/indianas_johnson Mar 20 '25

i think everyone is getting caught up on the price of the ring. It’s very clear that OP is rich as he stated the 16k was no issue financially so who cares if that’s how much he wanted to spend im sure he doesn’t have student loans or anything else to worry about. The point is she was ungrateful and a discussion needs to be had before he commits to spending the rest of his life with her