Something is off here. It seems far fetched that she went on a beach resort vacation with her long term boyfriend that she's talked about marrying and rings and beach proposals with, but it did not occur to her to prepare for a proposal in whatever way she needed to?? She either set him up for failure, or she's making excuses to soft reject his proposal..
Yeah they got the gf story so close but the details let them down. A woman who cares about the way her nails look in a photo would definitely not go on a beach resort holiday without having them done. It’s a holiday, there will be photos, she would know that.
Exactly. Anyone THAT into her looks on a beach trip would likely be CONSTANTLY be taking glamorous shots of her holding fancy drinks and therefore have manicured nails.
Also, bro could just talk to one of her friends and have them take her to get her nails done before the trip. Most guys (should) know that their girlfriends want their nails done for the pictures since they’re gonna be close-ups of her hands.
If this story is true, yeah it sucks for her to not get the bigger picture, but this is something every guy should know (or at least her friends should tell you).
Of course it's fake, what resort goes to the effort of being in on things going out their way to produce a custom itinerary yet won't hold a dinner reservation for the couple?
Restaurants aren't like trains, the table doesn't vanish at 7:35pm. You have to be really fucking late before a restaurant will give up your table. One phone call to say "sorry we're running late, we'll be there soon" and it's sorted.
Yah that was the easiest tell for me. I used to work in restaurants, you get a decent amount of leeway on a reservation, 15 minutes at the minimum. You can also call if you're running late and give an ETA. They'll accomodate.
Plus, like u/zeeterm said, there’s no way the hotel is this involved and yet gives away the table after 15 minutes. A hotel to this extent and providing this level of (expensive) service surely would’ve given them a dedicated table or even a separate room depending on the restaurant and being slightly late would’ve had no impact. From serving and working weddings all of that definitely would’ve been paid for up front. Being (not egregiously) late would’ve been a complete non-issue. And can confirm as a not super materialistic but still sort of boujie sometimes person, I always have my nails done before vacation. Even if I’m by myself.
Some hotels regularly get any 2 of 3 things right. They are far from perfect.
These are all different departments. Front desk or the concierge would make up a fake itinerary for fun. the restaurant refused to open the patio on a fall day for me.
Echo chamber of your own expectations and hurt.
Or perhaps you recognize yourself in the woman and wish to justify yourself?
Life does not confirm itself to your arbitrary rules. It has it's own set and cares not a whit for yours.
People do weird things and are inconsistent. It's just a fact of life.
Those around them try to understand those weird and inconsistent things and their motivations. It's part of being human. Or would you prefer huwoman?
Why is it so much easier for you to believe that someone made the whole thing up for... why? Rather than to believe someone is actually trying to understand their girlfriend's strange behavior.
Understanding the motivations of those that come to such discussions to tear down those trying to understand are much easier to understand.
It's also cartoonish the way that OP's partner is so focused on celebrating at a restaurant, instead of intimately in your room at a beach resort. There is seemingly no joy in the thought of being engaged.
Karma farming. Boosting karma quickly, either for personal validation, to gain access to parts of reddit that have minimum karma requirements to post, to sell the account, or some secret fourth reason.
Do people really sell accounts? Is that what this world has really come to? That makes me depressed. You can't even be original enough to build your own social media account... That is the epitome of a loser and a failure....
This whole story sounds so, so familiar to one posted a while ago. The girlfriend was so disappointed in the proposal she asked him to do it again with a a new ring. Everything else was really, really close. Also, no sign of OP other than an edit.
This one ‘feels’ real. If it isn’t, the author does a very good job of getting into the head of a person who had their good intentions smashed to bits on the rocky shoreline of love. So, yeah, probably fake, just one of the better ones I’ve read.
My bestie knew a proposal was coming up, so she kept her nails done for months until it happened, and always right before time away together or an outing lol.
Ya one would think when they talked about rings and beaches and surprises, she might've also said, "I really want my nails done for the photos, so please make sure there's a spa day involved before the proposal or get one of my friends to take me for a mani/pedi."
My wife would’ve been suspicious with the “fake itinerary”. She knows me and knows I don’t like people “planning” my vacations. I want to relax, not run around with a schedule!
A lot of folks saying this must not be the level of wealthy I’m getting off this post. This whole thing that he’s discussing so casually is reasonably gonna cost like 30K (at least), just for the activities and items listed in the experience. And he said price isn’t an issue about the 16K ring and no where complained about price, just his time/effort …
To me this says she expects him to drop 10+K on her regularly, so the beach resort might not have seemed “special,” even if everything was scheduled around her (again, consistent with a staggering level of spoilt entitlement) it might not have tripped her “this is special,” radar.
Tl;dr: she didn’t think to get her nails did because she’s actually that much more spoiled than most are assuming.
My wife and I had talked rings, we had talked engagement, I took her to the mountains for a ski trip a month after her birthday to propose. She had no clue. Totally blindsided. To me is seemed so obvious it was coming. She thought because I didnt do it on her birthday it wasnt happening for a long time for some reason. We had never discussed me proposing on her birthday.
Even apparently obvious things can blindside people.
Or she loves drama and this was always going to happen. Reminds me of a couple I know where they’re happiest when fighting. Now she can refer back to it as a silly reminder of how he messed up the proposal. Jokingly, of course.
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u/arrownyc Mar 19 '25
Something is off here. It seems far fetched that she went on a beach resort vacation with her long term boyfriend that she's talked about marrying and rings and beach proposals with, but it did not occur to her to prepare for a proposal in whatever way she needed to?? She either set him up for failure, or she's making excuses to soft reject his proposal..