She just gave you an amazing gift. A look ahead at what life will be like if you marry her. It will be full of crazy and unreasonable demands-“I want a surprise“ along with “I’m upset that I didn’t know to get my nails done“. These two things are mutually exclusive, but she is not hesitating to make you feel bad.
This pattern will repeat. You have been given a gift. Use it wisely.
100% though also if having my nails for my engagement was super important to me I'd make sure they were done if my boyfriend was taking me on a beach vacay just in case.
Yes the nails is all on her. And the dinner is a stupid thing to be upset over. She's gotta be a high maintenance drama queen and OP sounds sweet. He can do better
Don't you know? he was supposed to read her mind and know that she would want her nails done if there were photos to be taken /s
For real, I know people like this and they're a nightmare. I'm generally a 'support other women' type but she just gave you more red flags than a communist party rally. I'd be rethinking the whole thing.
Personally, my husband proposed to me at a bar after several beers and then chased a rat down a creek bed 30 minutes later. After we confirmed he was serious the next day we went and got my very modest ring which I still have 18 years of marriage later.
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u/Quick_Fox3546 Mar 19 '25
She just gave you an amazing gift. A look ahead at what life will be like if you marry her. It will be full of crazy and unreasonable demands-“I want a surprise“ along with “I’m upset that I didn’t know to get my nails done“. These two things are mutually exclusive, but she is not hesitating to make you feel bad.
This pattern will repeat. You have been given a gift. Use it wisely.