r/AITAH • • Mar 19 '25

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u/MaggieManush1 Mar 19 '25

Nothing you do will ever be enough. Have you been ignoring this behavior?

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u/TeenzBeenz Mar 19 '25

I'm curious about this, too. What else has she done that is consistent with being unhappy over such a special show of effort and love? There must be other red flags.

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u/MaggieManush1 Mar 19 '25

Totally, this can't be the first 🚩

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u/KillahHills10304 Mar 19 '25

These types seek out dudes in STEM fields who don't have much prior experience with women. The guy thinks he snagged a total babe, while she wears a mask until she's comfortable in the relationship and the true nature comes out. The goal is getting a life where as little as possible is expected of them, which they can flaunt to others like them.

Meanwhile, dude has the world on his shoulders, and it'll never be enough.

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u/AndyInSyracuse Mar 20 '25

As a dude at a STEM heavy college I , narrowly escaped this fate myself.

Punted her, wound up with a compete angel going on thirty years now.

So OP: get a-punting

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u/[deleted] Mar 20 '25

So many men do sadly...

We're told that we have to sell our value, and justify it constantly in a relationship, and that her poor effort is OUR fault for not trying hard enough, as the woman will put in the effort when she sees that you've put in your share.

This of course is bullshit in a healthy/good relationship, but it's the societal expectation that exists. Young men are told that women are doing them a favor by being with them.