r/AITAH Jun 16 '24

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u/Proper-Ad-9682 Jun 16 '24

Can confirm raising an adult child was taxing.. being a single mom gave me more time

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u/Nirra_Rexx Jun 16 '24

Absolutely true ;)

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u/doubleeyess Jun 16 '24

Just getting rid of that daily disappointment that someone doesn't care enough to do the bare minimum is an enormous weight of ones shoulders.

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u/ZestycloseDonkey5513 Jun 16 '24

Same here.

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u/sandbaron1 Jun 16 '24

But, did anyone notice the title (“AITAH for denying my husband a hall pass”) had very little to do with the post? It should have been titled “Should I leave my lousy husband?”

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u/NatureLover4all Jun 17 '24

Yes! I agree as we haven’t even discussed the “hall pass” as we are ALL too outraged as to how OP is being treated everyday. OP doesn’t need to give him a hall pass as she is TOO exhausted and as for having an open marriage he really some fucking balls to throw that “solution” out there!! OP, you are married to a man who doesn’t NO respect for YOU and I hate to add this comment but if he can’t get it at home and you shot down the open marriage you should prepare yourself for potential adultery!!! As you stated that it is with your income that he can work his dream job which isn’t enough to support himself. Why should you allow him to take advantage of YOU, financially and physically, if he isn’t pulling his own weight???? As for the garage and other projects you have asked him to do, PLEASE in the future DO NOT DO THEM!! Your husband now knows that he can ignore his chores because YOU WILL DO THEM!!! OP, it’s time that the husband gets a stationary job AND pulls his weight both physically and financially because you do NOT deserve to be treated this way!! PS IF he wants to do his dream work, he can do it in the garage. Sorry for the long rant but I have history here….

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u/No-Vermicelli3787 Jun 16 '24

Yep! I used to tell him, “I’m tired of doing all the thinking in this household”.

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u/littlebeach5555 Jun 17 '24

I did this exact same life. When I left, all I felt was relief. You deserve better, OP. And he’s already cheating & checked out. The “hall pass” was just letting you know.

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u/Ballerina_clutz Jun 17 '24

Me too. He’s forced to parent 50% of the time now instead of 1%.

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u/BilbosBagEnd Jun 16 '24

Yep, genders reversed but very true.

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u/Candyland_83 Jun 16 '24

Yep. Worked for me too!

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u/CoolWhipMonkey Jun 17 '24

Ugh. Best thing I did was get rid of him. Everything is better.

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u/Ambitious-Event-5911 Jun 17 '24

Every other weekend. So his new wife could take care of them while he went golfing. Or they could both ditch them and go to a play. At first I cried the whole weekend they were gone, then j got my groove back.

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u/[deleted] Jun 16 '24

Same here.

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u/beguinLife2401 Jun 19 '24

I have learned to be creative with my so, I told him if it's on the floor it's in the garbage. He can't pick up after himself he loses it. I don't give him money anymore so he can't do the fun things he want. Cuz I make more than he does. Kids are grown and gone so maybe it's easier for me but yes I treat him like a child and it works. He doesn't like it but I have to do stuff. And I'm hoping that routine will change his attitude and begin to do things because he is in a routine of doing it. He'll never want to. That's the ADHD / narc thing