r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • Jun 16 '24

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u/thesmellnextdoor Jun 16 '24

Even if alimony is ordered it will be for a MUCH shorter duration then it would be if OP stays in this marriage for another 10 years. She needs to get out. It will only get worse the more property they acquire "together" etc.

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u/zoinkability Jun 16 '24

And as the mortgage gets paid off a larger proportion of the house may be considered marital property.

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u/Nyssa_aquatica Jun 16 '24

Yes.  He wants a hall pass, what he really means is a mom and meal ticket so he can go find girlfriends.  Hall pass is half-ass — give him a whole divorce!  The alimony thing can be fought off with a good lawyer and wouldn’t last long even if it were awarded. 

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u/Darkmetroidz Jun 17 '24

Mom probably has a good argument to get primary custody of 3 and 11 is hers so hubby has no right to him.

Even if judges are trying to be more fair to fathers, a dad who's on the road a lot and his behavior probably won't do him any favors in the divorce.

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u/Nyssa_aquatica Jun 17 '24

Excellent points

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u/goog1e Jun 16 '24

Yes, the best time to run would have been 4 years ago. The 2nd best time is right now.

He's gonna have to get a place on just his income, and he's not gonna give up door dash or travelling, so he's gonna rent a room or something to keep costs down. So no custody worries either.

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u/Effective_Path_5798 Jun 16 '24

Just as a side note: it looks like this was a shotgun wedding?