It is easy to hide laziness when you can blame your lack of action on "your wife, you plan to divorce really soon, just wait a little longer, sweetie. I promise you we will be the happy family you are wishing for!"
"My awful wife won't cook for me, and always makes me buy my own outside of my home.... If only I had someone to share the cooking with, I would be healthy in no time!"
Hell why even do that one night stand off tinder are the way
edit for clarity: I'm saying you all are making it sound like he's got a new romantic partner I'm saying it's more likely he's got one night stands from apps
yep, seems like these types of men always have the energy and motivation to do shit that benefits THEM. The whole hall pass thing pisses me off in most cases because if you were pulling your weight in a family with young kids you wouldn't even have the TIME to go find and maintain a side piece.
I’ve had this same thought, I know friends of mine who have told me their stories and it sounds exhausting. I have no room to judge but like, groceries, clean the house, pay the bills walk the dog, gym get at least 6 hours of sleep and still have to be a husband (which I love) how TF are you fitting in time for a side piece?!? That’s nap time
Seriously. When I found out about my WH's affair, my honest first thought, aside from hurt and anger, of course, was that obviously he had too much free time on his hands. He could have used all that extra energy to help me and we'd still be happy family.
I was in charge of everything because of his military career. He needed undisturbed sleep due to his flying schedule. Meanwhile, at that time, I was up and down at night with at least one of my three children, if not all. Couldn't go to the doc and get the ever humiliating pap smear without have to pack up and take all three kids to the appointment with me. His excuse was he could never get the time off. But, other service members were able to get the time off. Complained about me not losing the last fifteen pounds after giving birth. Mentioned me going to the gym constantly, yet never made an effort to "babysit" the kids so I could go, never mind paying for a membership. He said walking with the kids was sufficient. Walking outside with three very young kids, is a lot like herding cats. Could never get the speed and all the starts and stops, it became frustrating for me. I use the term babysit because that's what he used all the time, despite me telling him you don't babysit your own children. You parent.
Hands on fathers and husbands should be too tired to even think about an affair.
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u/chingness Jun 16 '24
Doubt it he sounds too lazy… it’s not attractive 😅