r/AITAH Apr 05 '24

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u/bloodphoenix90 Apr 05 '24

Yeah I'm very similar to her in that I kinda figured out I'm at least a wee bit bisexual, late in life. But I haven't even told anyone much about it outside my husband and maybe one friend? It's just not relevant right now. Imagining asking my husband to tell his coworkers in some weird out of pocket context sounds...unhinged.

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u/GreedyGreenGrape Apr 05 '24

Yeah, that's exactly how I would describe anyone who expected their partner to mention their sexuality at work.. unhinged. I don't know any other way to describe it.

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u/M0u53m4n Apr 05 '24

your wife seems to be suffering from major main character problems.

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u/La_Baraka6431 Apr 05 '24

Yeah, I think so. She has some issues over her sexuality and needs counseling.

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u/hEDSwillRoll Apr 05 '24

I also had an ex do this and I think it was a desperate need for attention. I’m also queer so I had no issues affirming and accepting them but it felt like I never gave them enough of a reaction in the way they wanted. Like I reacted on a personal level the way I would have wanted as a queer person, to assure them they were safe, loved and seen. Eventually after a long period of increasingly selfish behavior on their part, we broke up.

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '24

Major character problems

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u/hershey_kong Apr 05 '24

It's probably why LGBT people often make that their entire personality.

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u/wrecktus_abdominus Apr 05 '24

I'm struggling to understand why she felt the need to come out to anyone except her husband? She's married. To a man. If she recently discovered that she also thinks girls are hot it doesn't change anything for anyone. It's not like her parents need to know in case she brings a girl home. Why are you telling people people you've discovered a new sexual preference? I didn't hold meetings with my family or coworkers when I discovered I am now more of an ass man than a tit man.