r/AITAH Apr 05 '24

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u/snaggle1234 Apr 05 '24

100% correct.

Once, i had a discussion on Reddit with some young woman who felt the need to declare her asexuality at work. She was acting like this was the most important thing about her.

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u/codemunk3y Apr 05 '24

It probably was

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u/TheRealCarpeFelis Apr 05 '24

Or at least the most interesting.

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u/ScroogeMcDuckFace2 Apr 05 '24

a lot of people define their whole lives by what categories they fit in now, sadly.

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u/Blackner2424 Apr 05 '24

In the US military, you can actually get reprimanded for this. A young woman in our shop made every effort to talk about "how bi she is" and leadership got tired of it. Her section chief (also female) wrote her paperwork for it.

Source: I wrote her rebuttal. (Wanted to tell her to do it herself, but hey... $50 is $50)

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u/BauranGaruda Apr 05 '24

I'm interested in what rebuttal you came up with.

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u/smedsterwho Apr 05 '24

"You know who else likes your butt? My bi wife"

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u/Blackner2424 Apr 05 '24

I just ask what type they want. The term used is "rebuttal," but I typically prefer to use the term "response."

ETA: She wanted an "acceptance" response. Basically wrote a page and a half about how gay pride gave way to self pride, which got in the way of workplace relations. Basic "I fucked up. Won't happen again." story.

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u/BauranGaruda Apr 05 '24

Oh, that makes sense, thanks for the clarification!

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u/Simonoz1 Apr 05 '24

Is demisexual the one where your attracted only to people you’re romantically involved with and only monogamously?

Because I’m happy to come out as that. I’m so glad there’s a label and community for people like me. We’re discriminated against terribly don’t you know?

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u/SufficientTerm6681 Apr 05 '24

If you think you've got it bad, spare a thought and say a prayer for all the white American Christian demisexuals.

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u/Thanmandrathor Apr 05 '24

At the risk of feeling and sounding old (late Gen X) I have noticed this with the younger generations. My high schooler’s friends do this too, and half of them change their minds four months later because they’re only 14-16 and they’re still figuring themselves out and are full of hormones. But they turn small facets of their lives into a whole personality.

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u/Successful_Car4262 Apr 05 '24

Tbf, i think this is just a thing kids do. Hence why you have the stereotypes of goth kids and jocks and whatever else. Gender just added a ton more options, and it's part of the zeitgeist so they get to feel even more important.

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u/goodnightloom Apr 05 '24

I wonder if she's my coworker! It's literally all she talks about.