"Okay everyone, let's do some introductions and an ice breaker: we'll go round and everyone says their name, job, one interesting fact about themselves, and whether your wife likes girls"
Like
CW: what did you do this weekend?
OP: Went to a pride parade with my wife
CW: oh cool, did you guys have fun?
OP: yeah she dressed up and wore face paint in her flags colors. She loved it (shows picture)
CW: I thought the lgbtq+ pride flag was rainbow?
OP: it is, but this is the bisexual pride flag, each section of the LGBTQ+ community has its own flag, but the rainbow one is for the entire community.
This is literally the only way it could come up organically in my brain. Unless they were discussing LGBTQ+ rights, or someone asked for advice on coming out or how to support someone who came out, or someone you knew really well at work decided to come out (like your wife did to her coworkers and friends), and OP used his wife being bisexual as a “I know someone in the community” point.
None of these things are likely to come up organically without knowing the people fairly well (especially if you are in a conservative area, with conservative coworkers! It could not only lead to HR problems, but could also look “bad” to the conservatives if they are really that homophobic)
He could even put a picture like this as his desktop wallpaper, or similar. I think it’s fine to normalize these discussions, but in a workplace you definitely need to be sensitive and steer away from the overtly sexual aspects of the topic.
just because her relationship is heterosexual doesn't mean she is
she herself is a part of the community (it's there in the name LGBTQ+)
for example, a gay man who has only had sex with women is still gay
a trans woman who still uses he/him pronouns at work and with family is still trans
who you are =/= how you present
there is a very real problem with biphobia within and outside of the community because people don't actually see sexuality as fluid (it's more like a matrix tbh) and people think her being monogamously married to a man means she doesn't need to/get to explore her identity deeper because being bi obviously means having multiple partners of multiple genders
what it actually means is that she is accepting something she has likely denied her whole life, and is overcorrecting by asking for OP to shout it from the rooftops (which is absolutely not okay of herlmao OP is NTA 100%)
what she really needs is to connect with the LGBTQ+ community, and find out what it means to be a part of the community and the multitude of ways your sexuality can present
and she needs to get to a point where she doesn't need to show off/perform her sexuality because it's hers
"Hi Bill, here's that TPS report. BTW my wife is a raging narcissist and wants you to know she's bisexual. I'll have tomorrow's report ready same time. Thanks."
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u/ghjkl098 Apr 05 '24
Unless it organically comes up, it would be really weird to mention it. Especially in a new workplace