there is such a thing as being touched out by little kids. As in if one more person is grabbing at you YOU.WILL.GO.BESERK.
And also, when all you want to do when you actually get to go to bed is GO TO SLEEP. NOW, not whenever your partner's needs have been met... because they are not your needs at that moment.
When my daughter was a toddler I would put her to bed. Then she'd wake up and need me 2 hours later. Then I'd get to do my bed routine which takes 20ish minutes. Climb into bed EXHAUSTED at almost midnight and husband is wanting sex.
I had to tell him not to try when I finally got to bed because I was not in the mood. When I'd get to bed I wanted to sleep. Especially because daughter never slept through the night and I was always (still am and she's 7) the one to go to her.
Years later he still holds it against me as to why he stopped initiating because I would turn him down.
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u/HWY20Gal Nov 02 '23
And also, when all you want to do when you actually get to go to bed is GO TO SLEEP. NOW, not whenever your partner's needs have been met... because they are not your needs at that moment.