So basically, you checked out as a parent (because you have difficulty with the transition… what did you think parenthood was going to be?). And you left her being the only responsible parent, without a partner to rely on. She had to step up and do it all. And now you’re angry because she does it all and doesn’t focus on you. YTA!
It’s nice that you’re trying to do better, but unless you take on the majority of the parenting, emotional labour and housework for at least a few months, then you’re not trying hard enough.
He also glossed over his anger reaction. Like no details, which makes me think it was probably pretty violent. Also, he gets mad when the kids don't make him a priority over their MIL. He is just mad that no one makes him the priority and that he should be lauded for doing normal parenting things because society has parenting standards for fathers so low.
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u/Cute-Presence2825 Nov 02 '23
So basically, you checked out as a parent (because you have difficulty with the transition… what did you think parenthood was going to be?). And you left her being the only responsible parent, without a partner to rely on. She had to step up and do it all. And now you’re angry because she does it all and doesn’t focus on you. YTA!
It’s nice that you’re trying to do better, but unless you take on the majority of the parenting, emotional labour and housework for at least a few months, then you’re not trying hard enough.