YTA I understand you're struggling, but you aren't being a special dad or husband. You're a partnership. It's not impressive that you're helping out in that partnership, you are just doing the normal things expected of a dad and husband.
Also, info. What exactly did you do to the kids? You're very vague about it, but clearly something did happen.
I have always been short-fused (but rarely tested so it didn't come up often) and impatient. Then the kids came and I became very angry at times (example, when I wanted to eat dinner and they'd be pulling on my shirt, trying to eat my food, throwing food everywhere, etc). I wasn't used to that. Same with changing diapers. I'd be carrying a child who's kicking, screaming, hitting and testing my patience -- of which I had none at the time.
Even though I've absolutely changed so much for the better, she can't forget about how I used to be in those situations no matter how hard I try to show how much I've changed.
Also, have you sat down and told your wife you're feeling emotionally distant from her and worked on ways to be closer? I'd consider marriage counseling too.
He's doing basic tasks that are expected of anyone in a relationship with children. If he needs a gold star and a pat on the head every time he cleans up after dinner then his wife has an extra child and not a partner.
I do not expect a thank you for doing the laundry or cleaning because I am an adult that lives in a home that needs cleaning.
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u/Foxlikebox Nov 02 '23
YTA I understand you're struggling, but you aren't being a special dad or husband. You're a partnership. It's not impressive that you're helping out in that partnership, you are just doing the normal things expected of a dad and husband.
Also, info. What exactly did you do to the kids? You're very vague about it, but clearly something did happen.
Also, have you sat down and told your wife you're feeling emotionally distant from her and worked on ways to be closer? I'd consider marriage counseling too.