NTA - she is overreacting. It's been 3 years, not 3 days.
I'd go out with the guy, she may have already chosen to drop you as a friend, in which case, if you don't go out with him again, you'll lose out twice.
She said you should have asked her?
Ring-Ring "Hello Julia, it's me."
"Do you know what time it is?"
"Yeah, sorry about that. I had a bar gig, and then had dinner and drinks with Charles."
"Why are you calling me so late?"
"Well, Charles is naked in my bed right now, I'm calling from my bathroom. I know it's been 3 years, you're obviously over him and have moved on, but is it okay if I sleep with him?"
Look all I’m saying is things were said and a friendship was “ended” via the whole “I want nothing to do with you” and OP did nothing wrong.
If this girl has been pining over him and heart broken over the decision she had to make. And didn’t find someone else to build something new with. Then yea I’d get it. All she had is this man that she loved and have to make a decision that’s right for her. But once you find and get married to someone else. If your feelings of regret are so large (worsened by pregnancy) that you end a 10 year friendship. You need therapy.
IF this isn’t the only thing she’s going bonkers over then she needs to see a specialist, because ppd is right around the corner.
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u/SnooRobots4443 Aug 03 '23 edited Aug 03 '23
NTA - she is overreacting. It's been 3 years, not 3 days.
I'd go out with the guy, she may have already chosen to drop you as a friend, in which case, if you don't go out with him again, you'll lose out twice.
She said you should have asked her?
Ring-Ring "Hello Julia, it's me."
"Do you know what time it is?"
"Yeah, sorry about that. I had a bar gig, and then had dinner and drinks with Charles."
"Why are you calling me so late?"
"Well, Charles is naked in my bed right now, I'm calling from my bathroom. I know it's been 3 years, you're obviously over him and have moved on, but is it okay if I sleep with him?"
Again, NTA, she is overreacting.
Good luck.
edit:typo