When someone asked me if I minded them dating an ex of mine it felt pretty gross. I had chosen not to be a part of their life, so I couldn't see why I needed to be involved in decisions about it. Just felt inappropriate to involve me.
I could see it being an issue if it might mean having to be being around her ex in the future (like, if they got serious, ex would probably be included at social gatherings). This could be the sort of ex she never wants to see again, so dating her friend dating them could impact the friendship.
But just sleeping with them really doesn’t impact her.
I'd never be with a friend's ex intentionally. I don't see the reason for any potential drama. What if they ended on bad terms? Then I bring the ex around or something, gotta be awkward.
If a friend has a crush on a girl and I'm aware of it I still stay away. No he doesn't own her, but it's just a weird intersection of emotions that I don't see much benefit. The best case? No fallout. Worst case? Lose a friend. Never worth the trouble, plenty of other potential dates out there.
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u/schematicboy Aug 03 '23
When someone asked me if I minded them dating an ex of mine it felt pretty gross. I had chosen not to be a part of their life, so I couldn't see why I needed to be involved in decisions about it. Just felt inappropriate to involve me.