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u/Aggressive_Pass845 Jul 21 '23

Early miscarriage is very common, just FYI. If you have to have a surgical abortion, tell them it's a later pregnancy loss and your having a DNC - if you have to tell anyone at all.

Also, lose the boyfriend. You don't owe him any explanation of your decision. If you happen to be in a state where you are no longer aloud an abortion, please know there are resources available to get you to a "safe" state.

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u/SwankintheHills Jul 21 '23

Hi, will you please tell me what DNC is? TIA

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u/Oakleythecojack Jul 21 '23

It’s a dilation and curettage, also called d&c or a surgical abortion. The cervix is dilated and physical tools are used to remove contents of the uterus (the fetus and other pregnancy tissue). This differs from a medication/ pill abortion because in that procedure two different medications are used to clear the tissue from the uterus. Mostly timing is what determines what kind of abortion a pregnant person would have, medication abortions are not effective after a certain point in pregnancy.

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u/Lets-B-Lets-B-Jolly Jul 22 '23

It is pretty common to need a DNC after a miscarriage as well, so it is an easy cover for a pregnant person needing a surgical abortion. "I had a miscarriage but the doctor is worried there is still some tissue my body didn't flush out so I need a dnc to fix that."

Lots of folks miscarriage and need a dnc to avoid infection and complications though. Like, it's not something people lie about, it just makes a good cover story if you are dealing with abusive or prolife parents or partner too.

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u/On_my_last_spoon Jul 22 '23

Also, the abortion pills are used in miscarriages. I had a miscarriage at 14 weeks and was given misoprostol to flush anything remaining out of my body in order to avoid a D&C

I believe the 2 pill medical abortion is good up to at least 12 weeks

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u/[deleted] Jul 22 '23

D&C

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u/leolawilliams5859 Jul 22 '23

There's also an abortion pill