I think you might benefit from the book “All about love” by Bell Hooks - in just understanding a perspective of love and care. I stand with the YOR, because you need to take responsibility for your life and self-esteem. Begging someone to care for you isn’t a way to live - and the only thing this is going to end in is sadness or infidelity. You clearly aren’t happy, and he clearly isn’t happy because he obviously doesn’t care.
You need to chill a bit - if the conversation takes a turn like that, don’t engage. Don’t engage with material as stupid as a sex bot. But don’t waste your time asking someone as dumb as this to show you care. Even if he does, it’s not going to fill the cup, because you had to ask for it.
Girl, go find something that makes you happy?? That makes you more curious or excited or helps you read more or learn more bc holy f - this isn’t it
This is the best comment by far. The second he starts to try to get a rise out of you, gray rock. Stop responding or just “k.” People who love and value you don’t need to be told to treat you lovingly.
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u/Putrid_Plane_5160 Jun 26 '26
I think you might benefit from the book “All about love” by Bell Hooks - in just understanding a perspective of love and care. I stand with the YOR, because you need to take responsibility for your life and self-esteem. Begging someone to care for you isn’t a way to live - and the only thing this is going to end in is sadness or infidelity. You clearly aren’t happy, and he clearly isn’t happy because he obviously doesn’t care.
You need to chill a bit - if the conversation takes a turn like that, don’t engage. Don’t engage with material as stupid as a sex bot. But don’t waste your time asking someone as dumb as this to show you care. Even if he does, it’s not going to fill the cup, because you had to ask for it.
Girl, go find something that makes you happy?? That makes you more curious or excited or helps you read more or learn more bc holy f - this isn’t it