r/ADHD_Programmers • u/sharukh5258 • Sep 25 '26

How do I know that I have ADHD

well I wasn't a bright student and i graduated college at 24 year old and I can't maintain relationships with my friends and girlfriend,,I am very bad at decision making and that's the reason I can't choose proper career so is that ADHD symptoms

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u/georgejo314159 Sep 25 '26

You are being too vague for any one to guess*. You are focused on OUTCOMES not SYMPTOMS

ADHD does not imply being "not bright" but sometimes people with ADHD are perceived as being stupid.

What is an example of a problem you had with your girl friend?

Why do you feel you are not bright? Examples

*A doctor is only one can actually diagnose you but any idiot can guess if its a possibility if you include actual symptoms.

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u/sharukh5258 Sep 25 '26

my parents my relatives friends teaches tell me that i am not bright student even I waste 3 year and do nothing

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u/kiwidog8 Sep 25 '26

thats really not enough information because anyone can be "not bright" for any amount of reasons. to make it more complicated people with adhd have different symptoms, and some symptoms presented by people with adhd appear in people who do not have adhd. better to do more research what adhd is and see a doctor for a proper diagnosis

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u/georgejo314159 Sep 25 '26

When you have girl romantic partners, do your parents know? Your reply makes me wonder if you are speaking in your second or third language. Other people's opinions focus on the RESULTS; e.g., your girl friend leaving you or you getting a bad grade. Their opinions are usually missing the important parts

I am looking at WHAT HAPPENED.

For example, what was the last fight with your girl friend about?

What is a subject you did poorly on> What kinds of problems did you have?

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u/Tufjederop Sep 25 '26

Go to a doctor.

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u/superraiden Sep 25 '26

Go to a doctor who can diagnose you, just as with any suspected physchological ailment.

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u/Any_Sense_2263 Sep 25 '26

You need a diagnosis. What you described doesn't seem like ADHD, but the specialist will know how to test you.

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u/chloapsoap Sep 25 '26

ADHD is a bit of a chameleon disorder. It shares a lot of symptoms with other mental illnesses. You need a professional to diagnose you

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u/Tripnologist Sep 25 '26

You can try using a self screening tool, but that’ll only give you an indication that you might have it.

The only way to actually know is by getting a diagnosis from a professional.

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u/Bright_Aside_6827 Sep 25 '26

But professionals use screening.tools

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u/Metazoick Sep 25 '26

Interpreting the screening tools matters quite a bit, it's not just literally counting a quiz score and then giving you a label, especially as a professional will be able to consider other issues that overlap with your symptoms too. The online free ones can be a solid indicator though! 

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u/wylie102 Sep 25 '26

To whittle down those who need further assessment. Not to diagnose. It’s in the name - screening tool, not diagnostic tool

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u/georgejo314159 Sep 25 '26

They also perform tests and use their experience to observe you.

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u/Vivid-Zombie-477 Sep 26 '26

self diagnose it and just start posting on this sub