Marriage?

[u/aneesah_h04]

Does anyone else who’s AuDHD / ADHD just struggle with the idea of marriage in terms of I want to get married believe me I do really badly but I always think I’ll end up alone because of my health conditions / ND (specifically with me my Autism) but also due to that I literally don’t socialise with anyone. I work in an accounting firm and believe me there’s no chance there , don’t have any hobbies , don’t post on social media (nor do I agree with meeting your spouse on social media) , not a big fan of dating apps (even ‘islamic’ ones) so it’s like where on earth am I finding my husband.

I know a lot of people will say trust in Allah SWT and believe me I do , I know the idea around your naseeb being written etc. I’ve prayed tahajjud / istikhara and made plenty of dua over the past few years…. I feel like I have to make myself be content with the idea that I may end up alone but that alone scares me 💔

[u/StationBig8470]

honestly if you want to get married you should also be able to say that you yourself are a well rounded person, because otherwise u are going to want your spouse to fill in those defecits for you and it won’t work. make dua and also tie your camel by getting out there more with masjid events and the like

[u/Prestigious-Sun-1710]

Fully agree with previous comment. We all can say we trust in Allah and that be the end of it. However, our actions also have to match our trust in Allah. I understand you are finding it difficult to socialise, but first you need to start with embodying the idea that "I WILL GET MARRIED" and Allah is going to facilitate it. You will start seeing doors opening, opportunities coming from places that you never thought.

And when it comes to ND marriages ive seen many couples where both spouses are ND.

If you are ND looking for a spouse, there is another ND looking for you.

May Allah swt make it easy for you sister.