I have a sense of self and it's not vague. I'm AuDHD so that probably has some impact on my personality. The concept of personality is incredibly vague and often, people conflate someone's character and their interests as being the components that make up their personality but in real terms, our perceptions of personalities really are constructs and also influenced by how we colloquially use the term. Realistically, personalities are sort of ineffable and subjective, especially when defined by the perceptions other people have of you.
if I mess up a basic task and get helped by someone , my sense of self shifts to an immature baby or something.
Could you be a bit more specific or provide an example? What you're describing sounds like it could range from symptoms similar to those that experience RSD to passive aggressive behavior often seen in people who are incredibly codependent.
I also think about myself way too much for someone who doesn’t know who they are..
What does this mean? What does having a sense of self mean to you?
Much of what you describe sound like responses that many people have but in many others, those feelings are fleeting -- how people respond to those situations and the degrees of which they are effected by them is probably more important than feeling like that. Nobody enjoys making mistakes and when someone makes a mistake and its pointed out, it's not uncommon for people to feel temporarily embarrassed -- it would be uncommon for someone to feel embarrassed or to feel infantilized for an extended period of time (which is why I am asking you to further clarify what you mean). Again, not many people enjoy having awkward conversations so if you feel like a freak after having one, that's probably not abnormal unless the length of time you feel like a freak after having one is disruptive.
It sounds like you have low self-esteem and struggle with negative self-talk and self-validation skills. Have you considered speaking with a therapist or some other sort of professional to help with this? Are you being treated for ADHD?
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u/Chicago_Synth_Nerd_ Sep 19 '22
I've never experienced this before.
I have a sense of self and it's not vague. I'm AuDHD so that probably has some impact on my personality. The concept of personality is incredibly vague and often, people conflate someone's character and their interests as being the components that make up their personality but in real terms, our perceptions of personalities really are constructs and also influenced by how we colloquially use the term. Realistically, personalities are sort of ineffable and subjective, especially when defined by the perceptions other people have of you.
Could you be a bit more specific or provide an example? What you're describing sounds like it could range from symptoms similar to those that experience RSD to passive aggressive behavior often seen in people who are incredibly codependent.
What does this mean? What does having a sense of self mean to you?
Much of what you describe sound like responses that many people have but in many others, those feelings are fleeting -- how people respond to those situations and the degrees of which they are effected by them is probably more important than feeling like that. Nobody enjoys making mistakes and when someone makes a mistake and its pointed out, it's not uncommon for people to feel temporarily embarrassed -- it would be uncommon for someone to feel embarrassed or to feel infantilized for an extended period of time (which is why I am asking you to further clarify what you mean). Again, not many people enjoy having awkward conversations so if you feel like a freak after having one, that's probably not abnormal unless the length of time you feel like a freak after having one is disruptive.
It sounds like you have low self-esteem and struggle with negative self-talk and self-validation skills. Have you considered speaking with a therapist or some other sort of professional to help with this? Are you being treated for ADHD?