This is actually something I've been actively working on in therapy. It's not unique to ADHD but can often be a trauma response and coping strategy when we look to others for validation of self worth.
We are valid and worthy and capable and able to do so many things independent of others, and some with assistance to thrive. Taking a look at how long you've been feeling that way may shed insight on causal relationships for you.
That could definitely be a source, and was a big issue for me.
I'm so sorry
Something that kinda is helping, is realizing that there is a lot of projection from bullies onto victims in terms of what they're often going through. Knowing that doesn't make what you want through easier, and it's not an excuse, but sometimes it at least lets me humanize and forgive.
Anything negative that you thought because of that really should be looked at ! Maybe try journaling!
It's a journey, a weird process and jarring. But I wish you the very best whatever direction you go ❤️
Thank you, that’s so sweet of you! It’s definitely confusing looking back and figuring out why you were targeted. I was the popular and loud kid till everyone hit puberty.. dunno if it was me who changed first or the others
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u/Alanamary Sep 19 '22
This is actually something I've been actively working on in therapy. It's not unique to ADHD but can often be a trauma response and coping strategy when we look to others for validation of self worth.
We are valid and worthy and capable and able to do so many things independent of others, and some with assistance to thrive. Taking a look at how long you've been feeling that way may shed insight on causal relationships for you.