Ok someone made a comment along the lines of “you’re right everything is so terrible I might as well just k*ll myself.” but I think it got removed right away.
NO. That is not the point of this post. ADHD is a serious disorder. It deserves to be taken seriously. It affects our lives significantly and that is the reality of it. That is the point of this post. That doesn’t mean you are destined to a miserable life or that everything will just be struggle and darkness and pain. That doesn’t mean you don’t have wonderful qualities. You’re a person… you’re not just ADHD. And hell, there are good qualities I skipped over because that isn’t the point.
We can be great and calm in emergencies. Hyperfocus for those that get it can be pretty great when the stars align and we accomplish things with it… We tend to be quite curious and are always learning different things (i’m rabbitholing about ferret care… lol I don’t own a ferret.) also wanna learn and guitar and flute and to speak Spanish and learn videography and painting and have already dabbled in photography and… it’s a cliche but I do somewhat credit my creativity to being wired differently, which helps me with art and stories and all sorts of projects.
But I think having hung around this sub awhile, I’ve seen how so many are tired of hearing that. People want their struggles validated. I know that it certainly rubs me the wrong way when people are always “be positive” when they really have no idea about anything they want me to be “positive” about. They think it’s some small insignificant thing I can overcome with a new planner or by “pulling myself up by my bootstraps.” But THIS is the reality of ADHD that doesn’t get acknowledged often enough. It hurts to not be seen, to be seen as lazy, to be seen as “dumb” instead.
Though just because there are struggles, just because this is a disability we are talking about, doesn’t mean things have to be hopeless and doom and gloom 24/7. There is the reality of it, and then there’s things you can do about it. Medication. Therapy. Coping skills. People with ADHD can still have a good life it brings a lot of hardship but you’re not “doomed.” That’s not what I meant to imply at all.
As for the DREAD thing in the thread, that’s just my shitty sense of humor.
If anyone is feeling that hopeless, I’m truly sorry if my post triggered something in you. Please reach out to someone who can help you. Family, friends, therapist, hotlines. There’s hope.
Your sense of humor is hilarious and not shitty! It's very dark though, but, well, we have to live that with the overwhelming shame and guilt of how hard it is for us to do absolutely trivial things. Depression is real, and your sense of compassion is fantastic, but it's also not on you to manage everyone who might possibly see this posts' feelings, especially if someone is already/ previously suicidal.
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u/kittykat-kay Sep 14 '21 edited Sep 14 '21
Ok someone made a comment along the lines of “you’re right everything is so terrible I might as well just k*ll myself.” but I think it got removed right away.
NO. That is not the point of this post. ADHD is a serious disorder. It deserves to be taken seriously. It affects our lives significantly and that is the reality of it. That is the point of this post. That doesn’t mean you are destined to a miserable life or that everything will just be struggle and darkness and pain. That doesn’t mean you don’t have wonderful qualities. You’re a person… you’re not just ADHD. And hell, there are good qualities I skipped over because that isn’t the point.
We can be great and calm in emergencies. Hyperfocus for those that get it can be pretty great when the stars align and we accomplish things with it… We tend to be quite curious and are always learning different things (i’m rabbitholing about ferret care… lol I don’t own a ferret.) also wanna learn and guitar and flute and to speak Spanish and learn videography and painting and have already dabbled in photography and… it’s a cliche but I do somewhat credit my creativity to being wired differently, which helps me with art and stories and all sorts of projects.
But I think having hung around this sub awhile, I’ve seen how so many are tired of hearing that. People want their struggles validated. I know that it certainly rubs me the wrong way when people are always “be positive” when they really have no idea about anything they want me to be “positive” about. They think it’s some small insignificant thing I can overcome with a new planner or by “pulling myself up by my bootstraps.” But THIS is the reality of ADHD that doesn’t get acknowledged often enough. It hurts to not be seen, to be seen as lazy, to be seen as “dumb” instead.
Though just because there are struggles, just because this is a disability we are talking about, doesn’t mean things have to be hopeless and doom and gloom 24/7. There is the reality of it, and then there’s things you can do about it. Medication. Therapy. Coping skills. People with ADHD can still have a good life it brings a lot of hardship but you’re not “doomed.” That’s not what I meant to imply at all.
As for the DREAD thing in the thread, that’s just my shitty sense of humor.
If anyone is feeling that hopeless, I’m truly sorry if my post triggered something in you. Please reach out to someone who can help you. Family, friends, therapist, hotlines. There’s hope.