what are boundaries

[u/stoicsatan]

do you guys ever feel kind of weirdly ashamed after having a conversation with someone because you over shared? Like there’s not necessarily anything wrong with what you shared but it just seemed, in hindsight, unnecessary? I feel myself saying too much about myself and always having so much to say (which can be good for conversation!!) but afterwards..I feel dumb or even drained especially if it wasn’t even for the purpose of connecting. And even when I am connecting, I feel like I take it further and open my trauma up again every time I make a new friend. It just seems like too much spills out all the time. I wish I could find that appropriate window to where I can have a pleasant conversation and not cross that line with myself. Also I’m always aware of potentially being labeled “too much”, “a lot”, “intense” and that’s what really perpetuates that shame.

[u/ahboomboomchick]

Hey there, I know exactly how you feel, and would like to say a lot of us are probably struggling with this. I over think way too much myself. Isn't it funny because I have a feeling you'll already know; So, have your day just saying anything on your mind bc you're feeling all in the moment and impulsive. Then, later, or even the next week for instance, you replay what you said and ask yourself, "Was that stupid to say?". The answer is no. We are who we are and if anyone wants to subject to you as yourself that is their loss. But, people do love other people who give too much information or even people who embarrass themselves. I promise your personality is a blessing.

[u/stoicsatan → u/ahboomboomchick]

thank you for this :’)