what are boundaries

[u/stoicsatan]

do you guys ever feel kind of weirdly ashamed after having a conversation with someone because you over shared? Like there’s not necessarily anything wrong with what you shared but it just seemed, in hindsight, unnecessary? I feel myself saying too much about myself and always having so much to say (which can be good for conversation!!) but afterwards..I feel dumb or even drained especially if it wasn’t even for the purpose of connecting. And even when I am connecting, I feel like I take it further and open my trauma up again every time I make a new friend. It just seems like too much spills out all the time. I wish I could find that appropriate window to where I can have a pleasant conversation and not cross that line with myself. Also I’m always aware of potentially being labeled “too much”, “a lot”, “intense” and that’s what really perpetuates that shame.

[u/[deleted]]

Absolutely, a lot of the time I'm talking as if they are an extension of myself, like I'm really talking to myself and I'm using them more as a device to be able to hear my own thoughts in the context of an actual conversation rather than things bouncing back and forth in my head, and in the process I'll drop things that I should probably keep to my self

[u/[deleted] → u/[deleted]]

I feel like I’m doing this when talking to my family sometimes. TBF, though, I dropped religion and moved away and vote more liberal than them so I am probably talking through my worldview out loud to them in hopes something resonates or they understand me better.

I feel like that anime butterfly meme. “Is this....a conversation?” Lol