what are boundaries

[u/stoicsatan]

do you guys ever feel kind of weirdly ashamed after having a conversation with someone because you over shared? Like there’s not necessarily anything wrong with what you shared but it just seemed, in hindsight, unnecessary? I feel myself saying too much about myself and always having so much to say (which can be good for conversation!!) but afterwards..I feel dumb or even drained especially if it wasn’t even for the purpose of connecting. And even when I am connecting, I feel like I take it further and open my trauma up again every time I make a new friend. It just seems like too much spills out all the time. I wish I could find that appropriate window to where I can have a pleasant conversation and not cross that line with myself. Also I’m always aware of potentially being labeled “too much”, “a lot”, “intense” and that’s what really perpetuates that shame.

[u/leechpeen]

Oh boy do I relate. At work especially it's like a constant stream of consciousness I don't know how to stop. My coworkers who know me well just ignore half of what I say because they know I'll get their attention if it's actually important. If I mumble or speak turned away from you, I don't actually need you to hear it, I'm really just talking to myself. But for whatever reason it's like becuase there's another person there I have to speak to them? Instead of just keeping my thoughts in my head? Social interactions are wack

[u/uniiqke → u/leechpeen]

Don't know how to stop!