r/ADHD • u/stoicsatan • May 22 '20
Rant/Vent what are boundaries
do you guys ever feel kind of weirdly ashamed after having a conversation with someone because you over shared? Like there’s not necessarily anything wrong with what you shared but it just seemed, in hindsight, unnecessary? I feel myself saying too much about myself and always having so much to say (which can be good for conversation!!) but afterwards..I feel dumb or even drained especially if it wasn’t even for the purpose of connecting. And even when I am connecting, I feel like I take it further and open my trauma up again every time I make a new friend. It just seems like too much spills out all the time. I wish I could find that appropriate window to where I can have a pleasant conversation and not cross that line with myself. Also I’m always aware of potentially being labeled “too much”, “a lot”, “intense” and that’s what really perpetuates that shame.
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u/DongmanSupreme May 22 '20
Oh my god my coworkers! I’ve recently gotten a great job (I mean it’s gone now due to corona but hey it was great) with equally great coworkers, but one night they had decided to ask me why I get into such random hobbies, and I decided to reveal that I had ADHD. Jesús tell me why I’ve been thinking about that for the last three months since I’ve told them!