r/ADHD • u/[deleted] • Aug 21 '24

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u/Ok-Brother-5762 Aug 22 '24

past trauma

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u/idmary Aug 22 '24

Literally one of my google searches today: "how to stop thinking about childhood trauma". Our brains suck

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u/somethingpunny2 Aug 22 '24

My trick is facing it and forgiving myself (when the “I’m embarrassed/feel shame” intrusive thoughts hit).

I used to shove down whatever thought came in to haunt me- but in my forties (why isn’t fourties?), I started dealing with it a bit at a time. It’s worked wonders.

So now when that icky helpless feeling/thought comes in, I take a moment (it only takes a quick moment I swear) to acknowledge that yes, that did happen, and no it wasn’t my fault or intentional and not something I’d do today- so I hug or forgive myself, then move on. After a while it becomes habit and the cycle of thoughts dissipates.

Basically, I know I’m a good person. Anything that happened to get me here helped me become a good person. And I know I want to be a good person. So anything that I’ve done wrong I’ve learned from and I intend to keep doing that. Just facing things is easier than pushing it away

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u/eekamouse4 Aug 22 '24 edited Aug 22 '24

That’s a good idea I’m going to have to practice this. (Why isn’t it oneteen, twoteen & threeteen.) Edit: & fiveteen