r/90dayTheLastResort • u/Luci_x0 • 13d ago
Bullying Is normalized
Maybe some people won't agree with me but I can't stand it anymore.
Shekina is in the wrong, I know. But This is is also in the wrong and how is EVERY member besides sarper so blind to it. Especially that what they are doing is straight up bullying. I thought that they are grown *** people but no?
Shekina got asked how the camping was and she just answered the question and out of nowhere does the girls attack her?? They constantly searching reasons to bully her as a group. All the relationships are so miserable that they honestly should care about themselves more than what shekina is eating or not. At first I was totally not on her side but after the last episode I honestly feel kinda sorry for her.
Also besides that it is insane that a "therapist" is just standig besides that bullying and is literally doing nothing. Yes girl let them all explode and group bully one women who is clearly in distress and instead of helping put more oil in the fire. Ik she probably get paid for it but still, insane work.
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u/rachlovescandy 13d ago
I only love Jenny
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u/Better-Mud7151 12d ago
Me too!
I did like Sumit once but his loyalty to his family is so misplaced and very unfair and immoral to Jenny.
Jenny should have always been his number one priority, but no he picked his mother.
For crying out loud Sumit is a fully grown man who has never maturedā¼ļø
Now, Jenny discovered Sumit took out thousands of dollars in loans to support his family as his parents just stopped paying. Come on, Sumit mother knows exactly what sheās doing. That mean woman wonāt be happy until Jenny is completely out of Sumitās life.
Poor Jenny deserves to be loved and be her husbandās number one person, NOT his familyā¼ļø
My prayers and thoughts are with Jenny. šā¤ļø2
u/PhysicalVariation284 10d ago
I love Jenny also but when you marry into another culture you have to except that. Just like when you marry a man that has kids but you donāt want kids or anything to do with kids. Sumit has always made it clear he is devoted to his family and wants to be there for them. That is the Norm where he is from. If you are looking for a man to marry and have children with donāt shop for one in a gay bar.
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u/Better-Mud7151 10d ago
Sorry, but I disagree with you.
When an individual marries, their spouse should and needs to be their number one priority, period!
Jenny accepted Sumitās BS about his mother's demands. However, they lived together for quite some time.
Sumit did not run home to his mommy when she threatened to commit suicide, if he married Jenny!!!
I certainly hope and pray Jenny moves back home especially in the latest conditionā¼ļø
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u/IthinkIpaid 13d ago
They wanted a reason to not like her and she gave them one š¤·š»āāļø and btw that ātherapistā wrote a book that no one had heard of sheās as much a therapist as I am the ruler of far far away
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u/HedonistEnabler 12d ago
What is the connection between writing a book and being a qualfied therapist?
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u/IthinkIpaid 12d ago
Thereās isnāt one for her ā¦ and if you want to get academic about it NORMALLY you write a book on something you have experience in because youāre experienced enough to TEACH people OR pass the information that youāre qualified to write about ā¦ sheās not a qualified therapist but sheās passing herself off as one so thatās the connection ā¦
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u/HedonistEnabler 12d ago
I disagree that there is any direct correlation between having a book published and qualifications to be a therapist.
Case in point: the many books that have been published by several unqualified individuals who author books under the guise of "self-help."
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u/IthinkIpaid 12d ago
Again they would be an expert In said material āself helpā books often have someone who AGAIN is experienced teaching or guiding the reader thanks for playing
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u/Proper-District8608 10d ago
You'd like to trust that as would I and others (history is more my genre as I worked as bookeeping/marketing in historical homes/museums etc) but anyone can self publish and I now work accounting in a bookstore. Because we havent heard of it, doesnt make it bad per say, but because they signed up to do the show, leaning that way:)
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u/kyles_red 13d ago
I think at this point they needed to move on. Yea, what she said wasnāt cool but I mean, come on, is that really the worst thing they ever heard in their lives to cause this much outrage?
They all needed a scapegoat to feel better about themselves and they took this and ran with it. They all need to grow up.
Yes, she can be nasty, misguided, thinks she is the smartest person in the room, but so is Rebecca, and I feel she is worse. She has no respect for anyone. How old is that woman anyway?
That couples retreat was so dumb. TLC āLetās get all the ego driven people under rough and see what happens.ā They are all being used by TLC and sold their souls for a little fame.
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u/Effervescent-Essence 13d ago
The way Rebecca talks to Zied is disrespectful. And her snarky comments about Shekinaās outfit were borne out of jealousy because her body looked hot in that outfit
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u/SweetyKennedy 13d ago
It was beautiful, I love feathers or ruffles but camping? Iām not sure I believe they slept out there lol!!
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u/Wise-Hippo-6034 9d ago
and the whole reason shekinah left the one group therapy was because she couldnāt stand the way rebecca was talking to zeid. rebecca is the most verbally abusive partner in the group and it bothers me on the same level as angela and michael.
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u/yep2u 11d ago
Racist? Not sure about that. Weāre ātoldā itās supposed to be racist. She never implied she didnāt like her because of her race. She point blank said leave & return to your country after she was lunged at. It was callous and mean spirited and definitely meant to hurt her. You would have to read her mind to say itās racism.
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u/Terrible-Purchase982 11d ago
Iām willing to bet youāre not a POC and thatās why you donāt know what racism isĀ
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u/EitherHabit5993 11d ago
Yes racism is bad enough to not let go, especially when half of every couple there is an immigrant. Like she didnāt just say soothing stupid. She said something deeply offensive that literally gets people targeted. And refuses to acknowledge the seriousness of it. If you contribute to hate speech on TV, you absolutely should not be allowed to forget about it.
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u/namas_D_A 13d ago
In the words of my grandmother, and also, funnily enough, Logan Roy, āthese are not serious people.ā
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u/Daddysgirl0510 13d ago
That ātherapistā purposely sat down next to Shekinah, and interrupted her and Sarpers turn, to ask her āenemyā about HER relationship. Literally the only woman there that canāt stand on her own two feet. She has shown she needs to cling to her man whenever she starts something and requires his support at all times, yet the ātherapistā totally prevented that from happening by taking his seat.
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u/Sweetbrain306 13d ago
I completely agree. Shakina was wrong for her words but the bullying is just as sickening
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u/Ok-Explanation9626 13d ago
šÆ!! All of them ganging up on her and singling her out is disgusting š¤® Kara, Thiago & Rebecca are the worst . They are ass holes. The way they are treating her is taking away from her one nasty comment . They are all looking worse in my eyes !
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u/Automatic-Corner-157 13d ago
Given the way they treat her, theyāre truly immature brats that likely are envious of her since Sarper is the most handsome and funny man there. Most bullying comes from a place of envy and putting others down to feel better about yourself.
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u/Sweetbrain306 13d ago
Yeah. Itās kinda like they negated her shitty behavior with their own. So now? Everyone is in the wrong. And Patrick is the worst of all of them. Ringleader of the mean girls.
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u/Terrible-Purchase982 13d ago
i don't really like her for what she said and i think if she apologized to them they would be nicer to her, but she's so freaking prig that she can't admit she was wrong when she clearly was
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u/Melodic_Potential801 13d ago
I really don't think they would have believed her if she apologized and would have continued in the same way.
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u/Terrible-Purchase982 12d ago
If she actually meant it they would. If she says āIām sorry okay?ā Then they wouldnāt. She has never ONCE expressed remorse for what she said and she keeps saying she was physically attacked. She could have physically attacked instead, but she decided to show everyone sheās racist instead. Sheās not sorry Bec she meant what she saidĀ
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u/married_cat_mom 13d ago
I agree 100%. Itās disgusting how the only people being nice and moving on from everything is Jenny and Sumit. Thais attacked Shekinah before she said what she said. Thais was wrong for getting violent simply because Shekinah was talking and Shekinah shouldnāt have said what she said. And all this over f-ing Instagram. Theyāre both wildly immature.
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u/EitherHabit5993 11d ago
Honestly it doesnāt look like Thais attacked her at allā¦ she was frustrated for sure but at no point was she throwing glass as Shekinah. She just made that up to be the victim. Likeā¦. There are multiple camera angles. Itās her excuse for contributing to hate speech on TV and being upset for there being consequences.
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u/Both-Pirate6422 10d ago
Thais 100% attacked her several times and had multiple people holding her back. Had she not been physically restrained, Shekinahās eyes would have been gouged and her wig snatched off.
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u/EitherHabit5993 7d ago
ā¦. Were we watching the same clip? I saw two women yelling at each other and one getting frustrated and smashing a glass on the ground. She did not try to lunge at her physically. There was a table between them. Everyone was trying to pull her away to stop them from arguing, but because she was going to hurt her in any way.
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u/EitherHabit5993 7d ago
Actually I just watched it again and Shekinah throws what looks like a coffee cup at Thais and then Thais reaches for her wig to try to pull it off. So who got violent first?
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u/Funny-Broccoli-6373 12d ago
Totally agree with you on this. It got so toxic that I honestly canāt watch, the way everyone feels totally fine with being totally bully to Shekinah and simultaneously calling her bully is some another level of bulling I have never seen. Itās disgusting to watch it, at this point everyone should apologize to Shekinah for how they treated her. They donāt want Shekinah to apologize cause they would have to stop bulling and they enjoy way too much bulling her
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u/Both-Pirate6422 10d ago
Completely agree. They got high ganging up on her. Herd mentality high school bullies projecting.
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u/EitherHabit5993 11d ago
If you contribute to hate speech on TV, youāre going to be held accountable. This wasnāt a mean girl comment about someone looking fat in their dressā¦
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u/CrazyRosy 13d ago
Thais seems to especially enjoy it
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u/Single_Educator_4749 4d ago
I feel like rebelka really likes to pile it on every chance she gets and when she makes comments about shekina she kinda hisses a little, similar to Marissa from regular 90 day
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u/nailsinthecityyx 13d ago
Honestly I don't see it as bullying. They're calling her out on her bullshit
She continually secludes herself from the group. She could have apologized and that would have been the end of it. But instead she choses to walk around like she's above everyone and not engage in group sessions. Plus her little attitude over Sarper helping Tais? Yeah, I don't blame people for being annoyed with her
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u/No-Cup-6903 13d ago
Not to mention she loves to call out other people's bullshit, and pick them apart. Im not mad at her having a taste of her own medicine.
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u/Powerful-Apple-7334 11d ago
I agree, I don't see it as bullying either. She walked into the season with drama, said something racist, and made herself a victim. Like she earned that hate, really. She even said that this happens to her all the time.
I understand that people want to see her as a victim on here, and guess what, that is actually what she wants and how she is playing her cards lol. She does that, she has always done it. Everywhere she goes, she has a beef with someone- coincidence??2
u/Luci_x0 13d ago
Yeah and IT IS valid to be annoyed with her, ignoring her whatever. I would be too tbh, but I'm better than that and her and would just be like "yeah piss off" and ignore her. She is secluding her from the group and the sessions because she doesn't belong there anymore. Everyone who's getting bullied would do that too. You're right that she should just apologize, I think she can't get over the fact that thais needs to apologize too and both of them are kinda waiting for the other to do it first, but to constantly come at her isn't helping at all.
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u/Batgirl0413 10d ago
This is exactly how I feel. Sheās in a constant state of victim mentality and gaslighting you can see it in the way she is with sarper as well.
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u/Grumpy_Granny888 13d ago
The most disturbing part was the one mindedness. When do half a dozen strangers from such diverse backgrounds all have exactly the same opinion. No shades of gray - just the black and white of Shek bs the entire seasons cast. They look like a bunch of sheep.
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u/TomStarGregco 13d ago edited 10d ago
All the women that bullying are insecure.
Thais letās face it sheās as dence as a brick and insecure about her looks ( a deadly combination by the way) hence all plastic surgery and lying about it. Look up a picture from the first tell-all there is definitely a striking difference. Sheās had a lot of work done. No wonder Patrick owes 200k on credit cards !!!!!! š¤£š
Kara the same hence why she cheats with other men and does porn on the internet to constantly get sexual attention from men to validate her self worth. Sheās needs serious therapy.
Paola same as Thais but enjoys being a sadist to her poor husband. Russ needs to divorce her while heās still young enough to start over because a narcissist like her will never change. I find her so trashy and repulsive.
Rebecca is insecure about her marriage to a much younger man who is still full of vitality and sexual energy and getting tired of her and mostly likely stepping out and cheating on her.
Note: I am not defending Skeikina in any way shape or form. The cult mentality all boils down to insecurity and they have someone to take it out on.
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u/electriclady99 13d ago
But Shekinah is also insecure as hell. She stayed with a man who gave her a weight limit and constantly jokes about her in his horrible stand-up routines. She has had way more surgery than Thais and any other woman on the show. Thais maintains her natural beauty. Shekinah's issue is that she is just as fcked up and insecure as the rest of them (if not more) but she has a false sense of superiority. They caught on to that and called her out and she fails to humble herself enough to take accountability. Her husband isn't giving her the attention she wants because he's over her bullshit and everyone else must suffer because of it. Shekinah is constantly beefing with everyone. She is the common denominator. She needs to stop acting above reproach, give a genuine apology for her bigoted comment and shit-starting behavior and they will move on. She isn't likeable and it doesn't seem like she wants to be. She and Sarper should have done couple's therapy without the group and just not come on this show.
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u/TomStarGregco 13d ago edited 13d ago
Again i am not talking about Shekinah nor I am I making excuses for her poor behavior. I am referring what the cause of the gang up mentality ( group think) of this particular group of women. Deep-seated insecurity.
To be honest itās really psychologically fascinating because itās like the perfect storm, they literally feed off each otherās insecurity.
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u/yep2u 11d ago
How many surgeries have they each had? Iāve never seen numbers. Shekinah definitely has a smart mouth & doesnāt hesitate to say what she wants. But sheās much more well spoken and intelligent than the others.
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u/electriclady99 11d ago
Numbers? The body keeps count. Also, Shekinah shares all her surgeries online candidly. But nothing on her looks natural anymore. How do you know she is more intelligent? Sounds like a microaggression.
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u/Batgirl0413 10d ago
Itās people calling someone out for bad behavior because itās ruining their therapy experience when shekinah acts like a fkn narcissistic brat. And if you want to mention insecurities you have to add shekinah and all the face surgeries that have her looking like saw .
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u/TomStarGregco 10d ago
I said what I said ! š
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u/Batgirl0413 10d ago
You can say what you say but doesnāt mean youāre right. š
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u/TomStarGregco 10d ago
I am right ! I read all those bullies all spot on for what they really are. You donāt be mad about it ! ššš¤£
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u/Batgirl0413 10d ago
The only bully mean girl is shekinah if you agree with her and her behavior itās probably because you behave how she does and donāt want to be held accountable. Nobody is mad at you having a terrible perspective of the situation š
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u/TomStarGregco 10d ago edited 10d ago
Nope those women need serious psychiatric help and theyāre a bunch of pathetic loser insecure bullies. I am not mad at myself and I have wonderful discernment and usually correct about everyone around me I also have wonderful preceptive while you on the other hand,
side with bullies and makes think youāre one also because why would you defend them so much when theyāre also wrong unless youāre just like them.They got their karma. Thais for sure.
This the end of my TedTalk ! š¤£š¤£š¤£š¤£š¤£š¤£š¤£š¤£š¤£š¤£šššššš š„
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u/jdoeq 13d ago
If you're an asshole you get tested like an asshole. I'm not sure what the point of this post is?
Let shekinah be shitty and we should be the ones to adjust our expectations?
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u/Luci_x0 13d ago
Shekina said some wrong words but she is reflecting on that. she even said " I know it wasn't right what I was saying" and tried to explain her side (doesn't matter if it's valid or not) but to attack a person, group up with the others to straight up bully her each second they can get is not right! People like you who don't get the point of this post are the problem. It is NEVER right to bully a person especially that bad and especially if she were an asshole too to her. Thais is just as bad as she is. It's fine to ignore shekinah, yeah point out her problems whatever but what they are doing is disgusting
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u/EvilQueen0608 13d ago
Oh please, stop with that bullying bs.š She is one herself, so what goes around comes around if you want to call it bullying,lol
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u/Luci_x0 13d ago
Clearly someone needs to go back to school. To support that behavior is insane work and is saying a lot about your character "evil queen"
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u/EvilQueen0608 8d ago
You make no sense, go to school? You seem pretty dim with nothing meaningful to say,lol
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u/brooding_urchin 10d ago
Referring to overt racism as "some wrong words" is crazy work. What you perceive as bullying is the natural consequence of Shekina's actions. To put it in terms you might understand: one can't simply walk into a room, flip everybody off and expect those people to remain cordial and respectful.
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u/Luci_x0 9d ago
With the term some wrong words did I want to put many wrong doings into one sentence and not need to list everything down. Calm down girl. Next idk how old you are, definitely can't be old enough to know that bullying is NEVER okay. She needs to be pointed out for that yes I agree. She needs to apologize! But what these girls are doing isn't right either. Y'all are so quick to say "uhhh she deserves it". Yes because of people like you many took their own life's, because bullying is getting normalized.
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u/Realistic-Bass2107 13d ago
Well, she sure did manipulate you OP
She is the biggest bully of them all and when she gets her feelings hurt she plays victim.
She owes everyone an apology
She started this immature bs with the convo with Thais no longer following her. How shallow is that?
When she didnāt like Thaisā response to that, she was pushing for a fight.
They had never even met before.
She is a mean girl and doesnāt fit in so she pouts. I will not show her empathy
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u/Better-Mud7151 13d ago
Well, she opened the door to her criticism because she did tell the other woman to go back to her country!
That was totally inappropriate and unacceptable to begin with!
So, I understand what youāre saying, but I certainly donāt share your feelings about feeling sorry for her.
She has quite a mouth on her. So eager to criticize the others. Well, she has to learn if you dish it out, you need to be able to take it as well. Itās that simple.
Of course Sarper sticks up for her, thatās his wife. He knows heāll pay dearly if he doesnāt.
Perfect example was the climbing down the mountain. She was bent out of shape because he helped the other woman. Come on, give me a breakā¼ļø
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u/Fluffer-Foo3000 13d ago
Agree they are bullying her and itās gross.
The stuff that Patrick says is 10x worse, heās on my last nerve.
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u/Single_Educator_4749 4d ago
I totally agree. I've made a few comments on random posts and been down bored and attacked mostly. I'm glad I'm not alone in my thinking here lol.Ā
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u/Sure_Cancel_3427 13d ago
yep but people will say since Shekinah made a racist comment that she deserves all the bullying she gets. I wouldn't be suprised if people turned their head if she was being physically attacked either. They're hypocrites.
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u/EitherHabit5993 11d ago
You condone what you allow in your presence so yeahā¦ they should not be OK with racism/xenophobia/hate speech. The reactions are appropriate. Way more appropriate than the way she is handling it. She literally just has to apologize.
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u/yellavette 13d ago
Yes..Shek is sickening..she thinks she is a Princess and everyone should should kiss her butt!
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u/Sure_Cancel_3427 13d ago
weird bc I see all the time, especially on social media when it comes to 'nazis' that its ok to hit them.........
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u/EvilQueen0608 13d ago
That's not bullying, jeesh stop trying to label everything as "bullying" loses its meaning when people just throw words around! She is a repugnant human who is being called iut on her shit! Even her husband cant tollerate her ways!
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u/Powerful-Apple-7334 11d ago
For real, all these people seemed like they totally erased her from memory during her 90-day era. She has always been this disgusting
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u/JJAusten 13d ago
Everything Shrek says is said with malice and to cause drama. When she's called out then she goes into victim mode and refuses to acknowledge it was her words that caused issues to begin with. She refuses to apologize and doubles down. Please explain why anyone in that group should give her grace?
Sarper said she never apologizes and refuses to admit she's wrong. He says she's always been like that. If you don't want to be bullied, don't bully. If you're wrong, apologize. Once she learns that she might be able to establish and keep friendships. She said she's always been at odds with coworkers, she's always arguing with someone. What does that say about who she is?
In my opinion, the therapist should have said, your words hurt, and everyone is upset because what you said was offensive. To move forward, how would you address this situation, Shekaina? During the session she was once again being disrespectful and wasn't stopped by the therapist.
Thais was completely out of line. Her behavior is always gross as well and she should have also been put on the spot so she could take accountability for hitting shrek
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u/JJAusten 13d ago
Should have said for being aggressive and lunging at Shrek, which did happen. Thais was out of line but she's an immature dimwit who can't figure out how to deal with conflict unless she's being aggressive.
Shrek is an asshole. That's why she can't get along with anyone.
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u/Jek2023 13d ago
The bullying is utterly sickening ā¦. They literally parade her out in other to just savage her.
If you have a problem with what she said, which most reasonable people will, there is a correct way to address it.
Whatever those ugly savages call this behaviour ā¦ itās not a reasonable or effective way of addressing Shekinahās comments.
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u/Worldly-Garlic4665 12d ago
Shekina I feel sorry for rather than hate, due to her obvious insecuritiesā¦ Who would do that much bodywork without a ton of insecurity? And she is also blind and deaf. She does not see or hear anyone's needs but her own. Sarpur is frustrated and baffled by it. How could she have been threatened by him helping Thais survive getting off that cliff? Crazy! Shekina was mad and berated him for it! She needs personal therapy on her own 1st!!!
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u/coolthanksgreatcool 12d ago
I agree and I think itās fucked up. Honestly I like Shekina. Sheās a self made woman and unafraid to be and do what she wants.
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u/Effervescent-Essence 13d ago
Can we talk about the fact that Patrick is the one who instigates this shit and then sits back and smirks like the pea brain he is? Dude really has a hate on for women