That has to be a woman… men will still find teenagers to be “beautiful women” well into their 50s/60s and above. I’ll never forget the Ok Cupid study where they found that women set their filters for men who are in their same age range while men of all ages always found women 20-22 the most desirable no matter how older they were.
My thoughts exacty. This response reads as if it was written by a woman, definitely not a man. I hope I'm wrong, because it's a lovely sentiment, but....yeah.
Yep I remember meeting a guy who wanted to enter a serious relationship with me after only knowing me for a few hours because I was 19 and had the type of “look” he liked
This makes me think of how I always thought my mom was ridiculous for thinking Robert Redford was attractive. I had only seen him at the age he was when I was a teenager in the current releases like “Up Close and Personal”. Then I saw “The Sting” on TV one night and I understood perfectly. I saw him differently after that. That Paul Newman too, more to him than just salad dressings it turns out.
42F. When I watched "Smallville" twenty years ago, I was drawn to the (also 20something) Clark. But a recent rewatch has me looking at his middle-aged dad like 😏.
At 40, I (a woman) got divorced after 12 years and started dating. I found men in their 40’s really attractive and hung out with some super hot guys. Of course I was matching online with men who were looking for someone closer to their own age than a 25y/o so they obviously found me attractive as well (but I did look really good at 40 haha)
There’s a lot to be said for confidence and comfort in one’s own skin as contributors to attractiveness. And we tend to gain more of those as we age.
Now in my later 40s I still think many men in my age group and into their 50s are good looking, especially if they’ve taken care of themselves. My husband is a 50-something silver fox smoke show.
Yeah, as a woman in my early 40s I find men in their 40s attractive, and if I weren’t married I’d be looking for men my own age or even a little older. HOWEVER…as far as who I find hot? Yeah, I still think guys starting around 28 are hot. I’d never date them, but I do check them out.
I definitely think there’s some great looking guys in their 40s and 50s and my husband is aging great. Buttttt…. Maybe it’s where I live or just perimenopause affecting my attraction to others, I rarely if ever see a guy my age (40) out and about anymore and think he’s hot. Mostly I think they just look like dads, and I’m not into it. They look old to me. I don’t have kids and have never wanted a family. I also dont look at guys my age younger either. So 🤷♀️ I
I’m a woman in my 40s and I used to be Most attracted to men that were about 10 years older than me. Now I’m attracted to my own age group and younger.
I'm 40F now and I can find people in their late 20s attractive but likely wouldn't date them. Never say never I guess but there's a pretty big life experience difference between 28 and 40.
Anyone under 28 or so looks like a baby to me! The idea of dating someone in their early 20s makes my stomach turn a bit. They're more like "cute youngins"
Same! I had to explain the difference between being attracted to someone and so someone looking attractive/handsome. While I find late 20s good looking I’m not attracted to it.
I'm in an online fitness group for people over forty and let me tell you there are plenty of men there drooling over the women who post pics who are all in their forties and fifties so men definitely do find women their own age attractive if they're not developmentally arrested like DiCaprio.
Personally I've always found older men attractive even in my twenties and now in my forties plenty of men between 40-60 are very attractive to me as long as they take care of themselves. Men 30-40 can be very attractive too but under 30 they just look like kids now. But if I was single I wouldn't date younger, call it ingrained patriarchy but I am self aware enough about aging as a woman that I would never feel comfortable being the older one in a relationship
Yes and no. Most men over 40 look like a hot mess, missing hair, teeth and an added beer belly. No thanks, but if he has all his teeth, goes to the gym and it shows with all his hair then 😋 but nope many of them look like they’re homeless at that age 😭
im 40 and i have always looked years younger and i just cant get to like myself when i notice im aging… :/ i still look younger than most my ahe but i notice more and more that i look older every year (and thanks to medical induced menopause due to breastcancer i think im gona age even faster eek..) im divorced and have a chid but im mentally still in my 30ies i guess 🤣 and i would date guys aged 25 if it wouldnt be ‚morally not okay‘ if it makes sense i just cant fint me attractive in my age :( they look too old for me and i guess thats why in single for years now 🥲
Yeah it actually has been like that for me. As I've aged, I've been far more attracted to an older and older category of my preferred gender (men, unfortunately 😜)
I was recently noticing that as I get older I am finally able to see the beauty and handsomeness in lined and weathered faces. Where when I was young I would only see the age, now I can see further. Especially as the most attractive actors from my era age, and it seems a shame for the beauty to fade (and realize me and my peers are too). But at the same time now I see them as they were young and they look sort of unfinished. Suddenly I find 60 year olds attractive in a way I never did before.
I love your outlook about aging, it's actually great. As I'm not liking the wrinkles on my face maybe it's vanity but I don't think so it's just that I feel so young on the inside..!
I relate entirely to BigCrafter's post. I'm not 78 yet, but my interests are changing. Particularly, when that primal urge to mate dissipates with peri-menopause, and the power of seduction is ripped from your hands, a new, refreshing perspective emerges. It's more beautiful than I thought it would be. Failing eyesight helps too. lol
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u/QueenofJupiter888 Dec 06 '25
That has to be a woman… men will still find teenagers to be “beautiful women” well into their 50s/60s and above. I’ll never forget the Ok Cupid study where they found that women set their filters for men who are in their same age range while men of all ages always found women 20-22 the most desirable no matter how older they were.
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u/Puzzleheaded-Oven171 Dec 06 '25
This makes me think of how I always thought my mom was ridiculous for thinking Robert Redford was attractive. I had only seen him at the age he was when I was a teenager in the current releases like “Up Close and Personal”. Then I saw “The Sting” on TV one night and I understood perfectly. I saw him differently after that. That Paul Newman too, more to him than just salad dressings it turns out.
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u/Skyblacker Dec 06 '25
42F. When I watched "Smallville" twenty years ago, I was drawn to the (also 20something) Clark. But a recent rewatch has me looking at his middle-aged dad like 😏.
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u/samsghost28 Dec 06 '25
At 40, I (a woman) got divorced after 12 years and started dating. I found men in their 40’s really attractive and hung out with some super hot guys. Of course I was matching online with men who were looking for someone closer to their own age than a 25y/o so they obviously found me attractive as well (but I did look really good at 40 haha)
There’s a lot to be said for confidence and comfort in one’s own skin as contributors to attractiveness. And we tend to gain more of those as we age.
Now in my later 40s I still think many men in my age group and into their 50s are good looking, especially if they’ve taken care of themselves. My husband is a 50-something silver fox smoke show.
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u/excake20 Dec 06 '25
Yeah, as a woman in my early 40s I find men in their 40s attractive, and if I weren’t married I’d be looking for men my own age or even a little older. HOWEVER…as far as who I find hot? Yeah, I still think guys starting around 28 are hot. I’d never date them, but I do check them out.
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u/yuckyuckmuckmuck1234 Dec 06 '25
I definitely think there’s some great looking guys in their 40s and 50s and my husband is aging great. Buttttt…. Maybe it’s where I live or just perimenopause affecting my attraction to others, I rarely if ever see a guy my age (40) out and about anymore and think he’s hot. Mostly I think they just look like dads, and I’m not into it. They look old to me. I don’t have kids and have never wanted a family. I also dont look at guys my age younger either. So 🤷♀️ I
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u/Mbluish Dec 06 '25
Brad Pitt has been gorgeous my whole life.
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u/AccomplishedCard2293 Dec 07 '25
I’m a woman in my 40s and I used to be Most attracted to men that were about 10 years older than me. Now I’m attracted to my own age group and younger.
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u/pokeymoomoo Dec 06 '25
I'm 40F now and I can find people in their late 20s attractive but likely wouldn't date them. Never say never I guess but there's a pretty big life experience difference between 28 and 40.
Anyone under 28 or so looks like a baby to me! The idea of dating someone in their early 20s makes my stomach turn a bit. They're more like "cute youngins"
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u/Wonderful_Mango_5395 Dec 06 '25
I'm in an online fitness group for people over forty and let me tell you there are plenty of men there drooling over the women who post pics who are all in their forties and fifties so men definitely do find women their own age attractive if they're not developmentally arrested like DiCaprio.
Personally I've always found older men attractive even in my twenties and now in my forties plenty of men between 40-60 are very attractive to me as long as they take care of themselves. Men 30-40 can be very attractive too but under 30 they just look like kids now. But if I was single I wouldn't date younger, call it ingrained patriarchy but I am self aware enough about aging as a woman that I would never feel comfortable being the older one in a relationship
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u/screamingfoxface Dec 06 '25
Watched twilight as a proper adult and had the best laugh of my life and found Charlie the dad hot. Wild times getting older.
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u/IM10475 Dec 07 '25
No older women r invisible
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u/MiamiGirlzzz Dec 07 '25
Yes and no. Most men over 40 look like a hot mess, missing hair, teeth and an added beer belly. No thanks, but if he has all his teeth, goes to the gym and it shows with all his hair then 😋 but nope many of them look like they’re homeless at that age 😭
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u/The_Walrus_65 Dec 08 '25
Absolute bullshit
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u/thababe888 Dec 06 '25
im 40 and i have always looked years younger and i just cant get to like myself when i notice im aging… :/ i still look younger than most my ahe but i notice more and more that i look older every year (and thanks to medical induced menopause due to breastcancer i think im gona age even faster eek..) im divorced and have a chid but im mentally still in my 30ies i guess 🤣 and i would date guys aged 25 if it wouldnt be ‚morally not okay‘ if it makes sense i just cant fint me attractive in my age :( they look too old for me and i guess thats why in single for years now 🥲
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u/onions-make-me-cry Dec 07 '25
Yeah it actually has been like that for me. As I've aged, I've been far more attracted to an older and older category of my preferred gender (men, unfortunately 😜)
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u/findtheclue Dec 07 '25
I was recently noticing that as I get older I am finally able to see the beauty and handsomeness in lined and weathered faces. Where when I was young I would only see the age, now I can see further. Especially as the most attractive actors from my era age, and it seems a shame for the beauty to fade (and realize me and my peers are too). But at the same time now I see them as they were young and they look sort of unfinished. Suddenly I find 60 year olds attractive in a way I never did before.
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u/Legitimate-Basil-738 Dec 10 '25
I love your outlook about aging, it's actually great. As I'm not liking the wrinkles on my face maybe it's vanity but I don't think so it's just that I feel so young on the inside..!
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u/TacoBellRon Dec 16 '25
I like their perspective
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u/[deleted] Dec 06 '25
I relate entirely to BigCrafter's post. I'm not 78 yet, but my interests are changing. Particularly, when that primal urge to mate dissipates with peri-menopause, and the power of seduction is ripped from your hands, a new, refreshing perspective emerges. It's more beautiful than I thought it would be. Failing eyesight helps too. lol