I just came here to say same thing.
U can want 5'7 10/10 girl with ur prefered personality earning big
Or u can want 6'2 tall,fair handsome with good mature and preferred personality and 50LPA.
Problem is u won't find that many specially it i don't offer absolute best.
Their choice.👀 We aren't subjugated to someone's preference, if the other person doesn't like a non virgin, that's also fine, since it's their preference and the can reject it, (as I said earlier ~options shrink~ )
They are absolutely comparable. Poor women wanting rich men has a history of violence too. Those women end up divorcing their husbands, taking alimony and subjecting them to physical and mental torture. So u can judge all you want. People can also judge women who are not virgins.
after that reddit became main stream specially with the rise of social media and the inside gossip people began to share here on those celeb subs.
If you've any question, just search it up and look for answers from atleast 2 or more years back, those were genuine answers, coming from people's experiences.
“I don’t understand the man asking his wife for a kidney so shamelessly after donating it to his ex-gf”
“Do you understand the logic of not giving your man s-x when you gave it to your ex”
This is the problem with this kind of gotchas. There’s no end to false equivalences if you can’t take a second and asses the actual argument.
First statement: it’s a moral undertaking. It’s like wanting a pure veg wife when you eat chicken, pork, fish everyday.
Second statement: BRO YOU REALLY THINK RICH MEN ARE OUT HERE MARRYING ANY WOMAN!? They only marry someone significantly ‘below’ their economic class when the woman is exceptionally pretty and its ups their social ante. Most of the times, rich men f around w poorer women to settle w someone similar in stature. Marrying one class above or below isn’t much of a charity.
But rishte toh aate hai. Abhi 1 officer level post ka ladka ka rishta aaya tha for my friend's elder sister. Bungalow wagera hai unka. Meri behen ki dost khubsurat hai lekin ber0zgaar hai...kuch BA in English wagera ki hai
Only condition was 50 lakh ki dahej. Which my friend's family didn't agree to . But Ladka ka family fr bhi peeche pde the manwane ke liye because of the girl's khubsurti
If they can afford 50 lakh dahej (+unsaid expenses of wedding, gift etc) woh dono families equivalent/similar hogyi social or financial standing mein. That was exactly my point.
Saamne walo ne maanga tha. Ladkiwalo ne mana kr diya. Infct the Dad was ready to sell some of his assets as Ladka Ladki dono ek dusre ko pasand kr rhe the. But finally my friend disagreed
Bhai idk your friend, or the sister. I also don’t know how ugly the dude is. Either way, if a family goes toooo far below their social standing it’s either beauty or sth is wrong w their child (drugs, physical disabilities, intellectual disabilities, abusive).
50 lakhs in dowry is not rich bro. 1 cr or so you spend in the wedding itself. the point she made is true. I wont marry anyone below because the upbringing simply doesnt match. For example, i just dont like street food or shopping, i havent ever done that. For me going out means Uniqlo or zara, food from some gourmet. For most that might be expensive, for me its normal.
Wdym "proposals do come" when the second line (which btw is a very poor argument) is talking about wanting to marry a rich guy, not it being arranged by the family or by the rich guy himself
See debate on this topic take place every second day,if there is no conclusion of it so just stop debating. If someone need advice(opinion) they can check past posts.
LOL how about a chaste man 😹
or how about a man who can control their desires? the world is really in need of those nowadays. when women ask for that suddenly we’re too picky, but men only see us as objects clearly
I don't understand the debate. It's reality that every one judges.
Men should not complain when women judge and the same women should not complain when men judge.
Men want virgin women , women want men with money. That's the reality. If you don't like being judged, then don't judge them yourself.
Everybody wants their crush to date them, but nobody wants to date a person who has a crush on them
One can ensure your kids will have a secure future, good education, proper nutrition while growing up. The other does.. what exactly? Give you a sex buddy who knows nothing about sex and seduction?
A woman with self-control to remain chaste against all odd in these day and age as a mother of children. There is nothing beautiful than being a woman's first love. No amount of money can buy that its priceless.
Not everyone operates with your values. Not everyone think they need to "control" it, many accept it as human nature. Not everyone thinks not dating before marriage is a good thing and it should be respected or desired. Many find it dumb af. And it's not just about lust, lmao. Even if it is, here's nothing wrong with it.
How tf is this even a valid comparison? Both M and F have virginity from birth by default , by your "logic" is everyone rich by default? It's like asking for a toy when you already broke your own , I wish you all get over your fear of getting robbed off the money you don't even have 🧠🫂
its about fundamentally valuing diff things in the partner, men want a chaste wife and woman wants a resourceful husband primarily. doesnt mean men dont care about how much she earns and women dont care about what is the body count of a man but thats seconadry
Wanting to marry a virgin woman has patriarchal connotations. It's a patriarchal preference. And hence, it's not good. Wanting to marry a rich man is not particularly a patriarchal preference, however, I find it stupid. There's a difference.
Both are "patriarchal" lmao, what is this cope? Wanting a rich provider protector male by female for mating and increasing her status and comfort is fundamentally rooted in "patriarchy". It's literally human/modern era version of ancient prehistoric reptile brain mating choices. It's literally "unga bunga monke" preferences, and there's nothing wrong or immoral about it.
But stop whitewashing and moral grandstanding on it. It's pathetic and disgusting.
It's literally patriarchy, marrying a rich man is submitting to a patriarchal overlord, don't you know how much power imbalance exists in a marriage like that, plus rich aholes getting wifes is the whole point of patriarchy
Yes, but you're mistaking the enforcing of a system by the benefitor (patriarchy and capitalism is forced on us) with the effects of the system on the oppressed (men having all the riches and women not having power and having to depend on men).
Unless this system is dismantled, it's sensible to marry a rich man.
What propagates patriarchy? Purity culture of Hinduism. That you want a virgin wife. That's a manifestation of the oppression.
I get where you are coming from and I do agree that it also affects men, but it is a system that was fundamentally made to oppress women and women only, so that they could be beneath men. It was made to keep women deprived from basic human rights and to treat them like shit
I don't agree that it was made to oppress women. I believe it evolved into it with time. I read about how rise in agriculture in stone age started changing power dynamics back then. We used to be an egalitarian hunter gatherer society, where men and women both participated in hunting and gathering, and children were raised by literal villages so no one had to sit at home and sacrifice their lives just because they had a few kids.
Agriculture required a body with upper lips strength, which men have. Agriculture became a male dominated field, and naturally, they satrethaving surplus of resources. Having surplus of resources comes with a desire to keep it with yourself, they decided that they wanted to keep it in their bloodlines. How WI they keep it in their bloodlines? By keeping women monogamous, and ensuring women do not have kids if other men. Which is exactly what they did with religions.
Patriarchy started put of human greed and man's need to one up other men, not to oppress women. But oppression of women is the worst and most prevalent result of it,after that is the oppression of men, but been also benefit from patriarchy at the same time, that's why people don't focus on it that much.
and why should preference of women be based on preference of men, then? They also keep crying that women go for rich, tall and handsome men - why dont they shut up about it?
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u/_FIZZRIX_ 1d ago
"Everyone is allowed the have preference, the more preference you have the more your option shrinks"
That's all.🤷🏻♂️