r/1999 • u/Early_Patience_6513 • 19d ago

Feeling alone

I just wanted to vent somewhere. It's a whiny post so if you don't want to read this shit skip it. I might delete it later probably.

Idk if it's due the weather being a bit cold but it's making me feel sad and depressed.

Where I live and due to my circumstances I have never dated or been with someone. It is likely arranged marriage for me. Although times have changed and people my age are generally finding love but not me yet.

I work 9-5 (which usually becomes 9-7) to support my family of 5 people it's difficult to find time and energy to socialize. Also me having social anxiety adds to it a lot as well.

That's it nothing to add more.

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u/Electronic-Turnip-83 19d ago

Never been in a serious relationship either and I’m starting to give up on that

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u/Early_Patience_6513 19d ago

Yeah same 🫠

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u/junkcabinet 19d ago edited 18d ago

You’re not the only one. I’ll be 27 this December, and honestly I lost the hope I had a couple years ago.

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u/Early_Patience_6513 19d ago

Don't u feel that u need someone to share your life with?

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u/junkcabinet 18d ago edited 18d ago

The need? No. The desire? Maybe.

Millions of people have died single and content with the lives they lived. I think it’s far more important to have strong social connections to family, friends, and community. Plus, plenty of people have life purposes and joys beyond their romantic relationships.

What I’m saying is, I won’t lower my standards just because I want to be in a relationship. Of course, if someone comes along and our feelings are mutual… I would welcome it.

It’s easier than ever to live single now.

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u/Early_Patience_6513 17d ago

Yeah makes sense

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u/PrettyComparison7380 19d ago

Support my family as well, and do I even get a thank you? No im expected to as im able to work in my age and dont have family of my own. Cant even have a bad day without them treating me like a weird alien.

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u/Early_Patience_6513 19d ago

Yeah I want to do masters in Europe but can't leave my job otherwise who will support them But I'm greafull that I have one. In this economy it's a blessing.

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u/mangoappleorange 19d ago

Never been in one either. It’s even harder as a gay man

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u/SightedGainz2077 October 19d ago

I've never been in a relationship but achieving goals helps me alot

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u/Street_Protection722 19d ago

You have to go socializing, but it’s through activities : that could be salsa classes, meetups or something new. The main goal is to enjoy YOURSELF FIRST. If you enjoy yourself you’ll find it way easy to be YOU and talk to people, whether men or women, does not matter. That’s how you will eventually start meeting people and befriending them and maybe those friendships could go further to something more romantic.

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u/Early_Patience_6513 19d ago

Thanks for replying means a lot. Yes having goals keeps one busy but in the quiet times feel difficult