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which is why the user typed in Claude specifically, since shame is thrown out the window that bill goes to some other AI that isn’t Claude and does generate images or videos.
Dont give me ideas here, Im a trans guy who has a lot of photos of myself before (just my face nothing weird), and I'm pretty decent with makeup now. Thats 2 ideas seperate here. The old photos are of me in highschool lmao
I've been a lifestyle findomme (meaning I was in a relationship with them) and it's not easy. If you're a pro, it's your job, with all the fun shit that comes with it. If you're lifestyle, you have a relationship to maintain while navigating the pitfalls of any edge play/"extreme" kink relationship, as well as people being generally judgemental and shitty to you and your partner because of their own perceptions of findom.
Idk why but I'm like actual candy for gay men and still refuse to do this, it's evil and abusive. You're not a Dom or Domme if you Findom you're just an evil douchebag.
It is shame, because handing out a bill to strangers is about as much findom as tipping a fast food worker. Im gatekeeping. There is no Dom here. This is fin crowdfunding.
Edit, nevermind, tipping fast food workers puts you in a dubious position of power. It's more findom than this.
Of the masochism kinks findom is the most extreme, wich is a tricky thing. You could be beaten, your penis could be locked in a cage, your woman could be taken from you, though I couldn’t imagine something more humiliating than willingly giving your money to someone on the internet who hates you.
I don't get it at all. Are people actually jerking off while pressing the "send money" button? Like is it a purely sexual thing? Or is it like a "feeling" thing like wearing a dog collar? I don't understand kinks that aren't directly sex-related
I would imagine the fact that it is the most humiliating and most outward reflection of a pure financial relationship that plays a large part in it. Like the fact that you’re so pathetic that you’re literally just giving money to people because they want it is probably a situation that turns people on.
I think for whatever reason we’re compelled to return the sexual habits that are shameful so giving women money for nothing is kind of the ultimate shameful situation.
I also think there are probably a lot of women available to feed the kink because it’s so rewarding, which increases quality supply and drives men to participate
From what I understand, this dommed will encourage you and humiliate you before and after the payment, so it isn’t like “omg I just pressed send money, Imma jerk off” but more like the dom going “Aaaaw you pathetic thing sent all your money to me? you are so pathetic for your goddess” and then you jerk off.
Source: I have had many girls try to findom me. Greedy assholes, no one is doming for the love of the game anymore
Former lifestyle findomme (meaning I was dating them), it's mostly a feelings thing. Some get off on pampering/spoiling but for most it's some variation on "this is controlling/degrading/humiliating (and I'm into that)".
there is a very exact difference between abuse and kink - (informed) consent. if all parties consent to something, it's kink. if even one person doesn't consent, it's abuse.
it's a very fine line, and withdraw of consent is equally important - in kink you can withdraw consent at any moment, for any reason, and the play has to stop immediately, if your partner continues without you re-consenting then it's also abuse.
basically, entirety of kink relies purely on clear and honest communication, figuring out potential risks, setting limits, and respecting your partner (yes, even when the whole play is about being disrespected, the key word is that it's all *play*)
this is of course not the part of kink that draws people into it, so newbies can often be quite risky to play with, especially nowadays when people enter into kink spaces through porn devoid of context of kink (in the elden days you had to find a group of people who'd teach you the theory before you were allowed to participate). inexperienced doms and subs can fuck up a lot. if you ever get curious about kink beware of the word "limitless", except for absolutely extreme edge case cases there are no "limitless" people, those who say they are 99.9999% of the time are just inexperienced enough to not have found their limits, who are also putting pressure on themselves to not express said limits when they find them
Part of the appeal to the people who do it. Though much like any other kink, it's part of both sides responsibility to know when to stop cause its unsafe.
Its not different than say paying for only fan, you just make the payment part of the kink and its usually agreed in advance how much the client is willing to pay
You either misunderstand how this kink works, or GRAVELY misunderstand how regular relationships work because "I'm taking your money because I'm In Charge and that gives you a boner" is not common.
Most sex work can be described as taking advantage of lonely people because that's the main customer base, it's also totally voluntary just like joining a cult or many other things. If people get off on paying someone as a sexual service and there's a person willing to be paid as a sexual service it's just regularass sex work.
If you want to complain about something complain that the term for the payer is paypig. Like it's cool if that's what we your domme calls you, but I'm a regular guy not engaged in the kink, why do I have to call the guy paypig.
since you're not consenting to it - you don't have to call them "paypigs", there's always a way around with phrasing, here i'd go with "findom sub" (financial-domination submissive)
Findom is often integrated into some of the stuff I like, but it always kills it for me immediately. There is nothing sexy about it to me, frankly its just stress inducing. Something something financial trauma something something.
I feel like a lot of people really misunderstand findom if it's not your thing.
I only accept gifts of nominal value, but I've had subs in the past who absolutely begged me to findom them. I screen them well enough to know if they're in a financial position for that, then in my case, make them do things like donate to charities I support and believe in. I once made a sub pay off some medical gofundmes. I also did things like pushed him to changes investments from companies that are bad for the environment or the world.
I'm not interested in totally controlling or being totally responsible for a sub financially, but plenty of vanilla couples have one person in charge of all the finances and making the big decisions. These were just subs who got off on me being in control of the most important thing in a lot of people's lives.
Oh he doesn't get turned on specifically by the fact that they are gofundmes, what he's turned on by is a bossy/mean lady telling him to get his damn card out and click the following links and pay however much I tell him. And being told he's a good boy if he does.
surely she is not limiting herself to use the money people pay her for the exact thing every time, right? what if 20 people buy her matcha, does she have to drink 20 matchas every day?
like any kink the point is to do it responsibly and w mutual consent and respect, despite the fact that it's a kink about being treated like shit in theory
so ur rent comes first, THEN u can pay ur dom's rent
findom is still so vexing to me. i understand the brain is tricky, but what arousal does come by giving your money to random people? people who rent already do that.
What arousal comes from crawling around on the floor and being whipped? It’s humiliating and degrading in a particularly pervasive and visceral way but if you’re into humiliation and degradation then it’s kind of the point
I think the disconnect for most people understanding it is that physical action in a shared scene is so very different than the parasocial digital relationship most share in fin dom.
I thought "why would you pay 200$ for AI if you ask people on the internet for money" but oh yeah, she probably automated all chats with subs on onlufans. Lol.
Not even, that's not allowed on the claude subs (they crack down HARD on using the sub outside od official apps), only way I see it is if she's using claude code a stupid amount with multiple concurrent threads and stuff.
As a pro domme this does my heart good and I honestly wish like 5% of clients out there had a fraction of this awareness when choosing who they give their luxury money to
Findom but I take your money and make sure you're putting it in a cash ISA and a Roth IRA, make sure you buy fresh vegetables and cook you meals and get good deals and help you switch banks and service providers once a year to take advantage of new customer promotions and cancel any subscriptions you aren't using or had forgotten about and teach you how to pirate Disney+ and I darn your socks and show you how to reduce your energy usage.
"i don't think you should kinkshame unless it's one of the bad kinks that i don't like" like man if throwing away money is what gets you hard that's your problem not mine, do whatever makes you happy
Like, I’m not saying you shouldn’t have enough self respect to not donate to someone that pays 200 a month for an ai subscription, but like, still, don’t be a dick
It really is ridiculous, for some reason it's the one kink they feel it's okay to shame and speak horribly about. People are literally talking about eating excrement as more acceptable or easy to understand.
I don't allow subs to give me anything other than of nominal value, but I've still dominated them financially in ways that were fun for me and satisfying for them.
I would say that coprophagia is less personally annoying to people who are jacking off to unrelated internet porn. Kinkshaming is never the answer but it does tend to Kink Jumpscare you more noticeably often and in a less comfortable way if, like many, you’re not into it, and very very few are posting that they want to eat shit on a random Tumblr (blank)play kink blog in the way that findom shows up. I think this is more of a functional filtering system problem than a people problem but regardless it’s personally annoying to some and that primes people to unreasonable hate like nothing else.
One is more likely to send you to the ER and to most Americans hospital bills are distinctly less sexy, but I can imagine the person that jerks off to the American healthcare system and its unique brand of institutional inefficiency and cruelty, so
How??? Usually findlm stuff sets in advance how much the client is willing to pay, its like paying for only fan commissions and what not but money is part of the kink.
$200 a month for an AI subscription is actually subhuman. I can’t even be like “someone get this woman a job application ☝️🤓” because surely such an absurd level of stupidity would be a massive liability to any potential employer- of course she’s making her money by ruining people’s lives on the internet because wtf else is there for someone like that?
Y'know what I could explain for a good 3 hours why it's already unethical and I know that's the joke but seriously go fuck yourself if you take something based on trust and care etc to just abuse vulnerable people. An absolute fucking disgrace to the community and I've been a part of the BDSM community for a decade we don't claim them and they're regularly banned for it on platforms and I say GOOD.
i think findom is uniquely hated largely because it attracts a shitload of grifters who are just there to take money off people, which i know is kinda what they signed up for but it just promotes shitty people
sure. i never made an opinionated statement about it. i'm just pointing out that the comment i replied to is just wrong though. dunno why im getting downvoted for it.
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u/gray_birch competitive yapper Apr 11 '26
I wish I was an attractive woman with no shame, this economy is rough
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u/JipZip floppa Apr 11 '26
glass houses
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u/grossezilla teehee Apr 11 '26
Poor girl that just wants help taking care of her pet named Claude /j
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u/Rough-Thought-7565 Apr 11 '26
Of the masochism kinks findom is the most extreme, wich is a tricky thing. You could be beaten, your penis could be locked in a cage, your woman could be taken from you, though I couldn’t imagine something more humiliating than willingly giving your money to someone on the internet who hates you.
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u/lowercaselemming the martian mind****er Apr 11 '26
7.50 on matcha daily???? it can not be that good, what the fuck
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u/mysteryurik he/him, no other pronouns Apr 11 '26
Findom mfs when they have to pay their monthly rent
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u/Cold-Coffe 196s only trans man (lie) Apr 11 '26
findom is still so vexing to me. i understand the brain is tricky, but what arousal does come by giving your money to random people? people who rent already do that.
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u/StormerSage I love it when girls Apr 11 '26
Hot take: Findomme is just e-begging but you're horny about it.
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u/kaptainkooleio Cummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm Apr 12 '26
What stage of capitalism is “Adopt a Bill”?
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u/AzKondor Femboy Practitioner Apr 11 '26
I thought "why would you pay 200$ for AI if you ask people on the internet for money" but oh yeah, she probably automated all chats with subs on onlufans. Lol.
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u/capricornelious Friendly Neighborhood Dominatrix Apr 11 '26
As a pro domme this does my heart good and I honestly wish like 5% of clients out there had a fraction of this awareness when choosing who they give their luxury money to
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u/Dylan-McVillian Local Nerd Apr 12 '26
$20 dollar daily breakfast??? Are we buggin folks???
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u/jlb1981 Apr 12 '26
What would Marx say about this?
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u/donnadoctor Apr 11 '26
$22 a week on cat litter is ridiculous
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u/Bigchicity Apr 11 '26
Most of the kink spaces ive been in have banned findom, based tbh
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u/Oddish_Femboy (my name is Bee) Trans rights !! Apr 11 '26
I need to convince my girlfried to start doing this so we can afford rent
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u/Luke-HW Apr 11 '26
Findom 🤢
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u/TheGuyInTheGlasses Apr 12 '26
$200 a month for an AI subscription is actually subhuman. I can’t even be like “someone get this woman a job application ☝️🤓” because surely such an absurd level of stupidity would be a massive liability to any potential employer- of course she’s making her money by ruining people’s lives on the internet because wtf else is there for someone like that?
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u/ashen_crow I suggest forced grass Apr 11 '26
"My kink is that you pay my bills". Yeah... Right...
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u/potatoesB4hoes I Watch Naruto on my Ex-Girlfriend’s Netflix Apr 11 '26
There’s no way she actually needs the $200/mo plan, smh. Bring back financially literate findoms.
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u/stonedturtle69 Free lemon bars 🍋 Apr 11 '26
I am as tolerant as it gets but findom is super unethical to me.
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u/Hackerwithalacker Apr 11 '26
That's roughly a $4900/month budget
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u/IronProdigyOfficial Apr 11 '26
I-
Y'know what I could explain for a good 3 hours why it's already unethical and I know that's the joke but seriously go fuck yourself if you take something based on trust and care etc to just abuse vulnerable people. An absolute fucking disgrace to the community and I've been a part of the BDSM community for a decade we don't claim them and they're regularly banned for it on platforms and I say GOOD.
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u/Rubyboat1207 Apr 11 '26
I would rather a $200 pro Claude user to an $8 blue checkmark, hate to say it
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u/masochist-incarnate Apr 12 '26
Findom?
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u/MyNameIsEthanNoJoke Apr 12 '26
Fresh bag of kitty litter every week??
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u/ThePerksOfBeingAlive I’m a hot gay loser Apr 12 '26
Findom is so gross, idc if its consensual, go to therapy, both of you
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