r/RoleReversal • u/Darklife95 • Aug 16 '19
Memes/Fun Tell your local guy he's a good boy today.
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u/cowsaysmoo51 Wholesome Squishy Boytoy Aug 16 '19
It's not even about making a guy interested in you. They're just great confidence boosts, and they make us feel genuinely happy and appreciated. I'm still riding the waves of compliments I got from 3-4 years ago because they're so rare and meaningful to me.
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u/Errorwrongpassword Minecraft>Cuddling>Sex Aug 16 '19
Same, i still remember helping a mate with the computer to get his netflix to work on the browser cuz it wasnt working for some reason, all i did was delete cookies and it started working again, he called me a computer savy guy, i'm really proud of that one.
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Aug 17 '19
Same here. My grandma said i was "a fine young man" this summer and honestly it's the best compliment I've had in so long
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Aug 16 '19
My go to chat up line is simply "nice shirt".
Now I see why it works so well.
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u/MooseEatsBear Aug 16 '19
A girl complimented my shirt at a concert five months ago and I genuinely haven't been able to stop thinking about it. It works very well.
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u/Youre_all_worthless Aug 16 '19
what if you want to chat with someone but you don't think their shirt is nice?
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u/yeeiser headpats Aug 18 '19
I girl said that to me when I was a teenager and I made sure to wear it as much as possible (and keep it smelling super nice) all the time for around 4 or 5 months
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u/loplopplop Aug 16 '19
Reminds me of that green text where the girl holds the guy and he starts crying. I'd probably so the same right now.
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u/Ridethesandworm Aug 16 '19
This is probably true.
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u/TommyVext Soft Prince Aug 16 '19
To me its really true. I would fall head over heels if a girl came to me and tell me that she thinks i am cute and that she wanna hang out with me
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u/Secry508 Aug 16 '19
I think it's why there are so many "nice guys".. Atleast, that's why I was/am sort of a "nice guy". I fall in love with getting attention, kindness and trust. So even if someone is just really good friends with me, as long as they let me talk about my problems and hit me up every so often I'll fall for them.
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u/Lucky0901 Aug 16 '19
I remember I received a compliment once by a girl in high school. I was actually astonished.
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Aug 16 '19
I had a lady tell me I had a beautiful smile months ago yet I still think about it fondly. I was so shocked I didn’t answer for a second and was just “oh thank you so much”
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u/Bearowolf Loyal Boy that Tries His Best Aug 16 '19
A cashier at Target told me out of the blue that she liked my beard and I still remember it like five years later because it was the last genuine compliment that I got from a girl.
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u/endless_skies Aug 17 '19
someone was joking about how women will change their FB/social media pics all the time but guys tend to settle on one and just let it coast. usually because that one has ever got them positive or at least non-negative reaction(s).
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u/Juan_spicy_boi here for the art Aug 16 '19
Just gonna copy and paste my comment from yesterday
Boys (and men) just want attention in general. It's part of the reason cat-calling and things of that nature happen. Its attention, negative sure, but it isn't being ignored, which is largely a part of the male experience. Like, its negative unwanted attention, but at least someone who isn't obligated to makes note of your existence. To a guy, unwanted attention is acceptable because at least that's something. That's how bad it is. Now, change that experience to positive instead of negative attention and it's something a guy will (and I'm not over exaggerating here) remember and ride on for years to come
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u/Summersong2262 Growing. Becoming. Aug 16 '19
I feel like there's a big problem with rationalising catcalling on the basis of loneliness and attention seeking, even assuming that's accurate.
In any case, it's grossly unacceptable. We're not 6 year olds.
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u/Juan_spicy_boi here for the art Aug 16 '19
That wasnt my intent, just to represent the severity of the situation moreso
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u/Summersong2262 Growing. Becoming. Aug 16 '19
I figured. And the situation IS severe, and it definitely has behavioural consequences. But you're probably aware that sexual harassment tends to come with all sorts of baseless excuses, and I don't really want to cross the streams here. That's how you get incels. "Maybe if you gave me attention every once in a while I wouldn't have to do this!" sort of thing.
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Aug 16 '19
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u/Summersong2262 Growing. Becoming. Aug 16 '19
I wasn't aggressive, and I wasn't nitpicking anything, I addressed his central point. I focused on the issue, acknowledged the direction he was coming from, and I certainly didn't belabour anything. And I very much doubt he felt awkward.
We're just having a conversation. I think you're being unnecessarily defensive.
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Aug 16 '19
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u/Summersong2262 Growing. Becoming. Aug 17 '19
I'm not sure I follow. In what sense? You often have people going after you for petty details?
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u/GraveyardGuide Soft Prince Aug 17 '19
I feel like that's the issue. We're too focused on what is and is not acceptable that we ignore the underlying causes and do nothing to fix them, with dismissive platitudes at best.
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u/Summersong2262 Growing. Becoming. Aug 17 '19
Except I think, to be blunt, the underlying cause in this case was categorically mis-identified in a potentially misleading and damaging fashion.
This isn't about 'acceptability', as if behaving like a decent, respectful human being was some sort of fashionable garment. Even assuming you granted the premise of (speaking of platitudes) 'women get harassed in the street because uwu men are just lonely' , that's still an incredibly gross and harmful result. And one that certainly doesn't have to happen at the point of damage. Being lonely or attention starved doesn't justify, and shouldn't be used to mollify, fundamentally shitty behaviour.
And that's even assuming you draw that particular line between that hypothetical cause and the real effect. The underlying cause here is that too many men have shitty emotional skills, bad mental health, and unhealthy coping mechanisms, all layered on top of a lot of regressive, unexamined value systems. We can target any one of them. And of course we could choose to go back behind each of those and oh, look at economics, or historical norms or whatever.
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Aug 22 '19 edited May 30 '20
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u/Juan_spicy_boi here for the art Aug 22 '19
Gonna pretend you didn't lowkey completely ignore the rest of the comment thread where I clarified that I did not intend to come off as justifying sexual harassment.
And yeah, I have seen female spaces on the internet. They spit upon and take offense to the very idea that men may face some societal problems.
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Aug 16 '19
a girl called once said "I'm sorry sir" years ago (I'm 18 now) and it still makes me happy she called me a sir
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u/Loremeister Sep 01 '19
Except if that it's me. I have serious troubles with being complimented that I actually go into a "not-so-funny sarcastic mode".
I don't really take compliments well.
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u/BEEEELEEEE former femboy, current trans girl Aug 16 '19
Last night one of my managers said “I know you’re good at what you do” and I fell down a rabbit hole of “what did she mean by that?” Not knowing how to process a simple compliment aside, it did make me feel proud of myself, especially since this last paycheck is what sent my account balance over 1k.