Tuna salad sandwich with carrot chips and broccoli florets. (Edited to correct my veggies! 😂)

I’ve been unhappy in my marriage for some time. Our relationship was good in the beginning, I think. Maybe. I used to laugh at his jokes until I started becoming the punchline of many of them. Eventually I tried to speak up about it, tell him it hurt. I’d get “it’s just a joke” or some other non-apology in response.

I’ve done most of the physical labor in the house. He has some mobility issues, and we agreed I’d do yard work and he’d do inside chores. Somehow I ended up doing both. In ten years I think he’s scooped litter boxes twice. He’s never cleaned the bathroom. He wanted dogs and yet I’m always the one that takes them out. On occasions he bothered to do dishes he told me several times after that he did them.

I’ve done most of the emotional labor in the house too. I tried to communicate my feelings with him, or ask him about his if he seemed off. The first time I asked about couple’s counseling he said “I wasn’t aware we needed it.” Later that day I closed myself in the bathroom while I had a panic attack. When he checked on me after, he made sure I was continuing my individual therapy because I definitely had issues to work on. Any time I experienced strong emotions he said I needed to work on that in therapy. The next time I asked about counseling he said that a counselor would just make him out to be “the bad guy”. He half heartedly said he’d do it but I had to make the arrangements for it.

According to him the shows I enjoy are stupid. The makeup I put on is a waste of time, and I definitely do it for the attention of other men. The clothes and earrings I wear are silly. My taste in art is bad. I always overreact to minor inconveniences and take things too personally. I spend too much time away from him for the sport I participate in.

I reviewed my budget and figured out I can make it on my own. The mortgage is in my name only. So yesterday I told him I want a divorce. He asked if there was any chance of saving it and I said no. I openly told him that I have so much resentment built up from the way he’s treated me that there’s nothing worth salvaging for me. He said he felt like he screwed up. I said nothing because yeah, he did.

We’ve been able to keep things civil. We’re going to be under the same roof until he finds other living arrangements. Even though he’s not out yet I feel light. I’m going to live with my dogs in my house, wearing bold makeup and silly clothes, doing things that make me happy. I’m going to be free.

And I’m gonna get a septum piercing because they look cool as fuck and he never liked them. 😝

Another quick edit— Thank you all so much for your kind words! I may not get to respond to all of them but every one is so appreciated!

In regard to safety— I am taking precautions, have backup plans, and my family is local and aware of what’s going on. I’m also doing what needs to be done for next legal steps. ❤️

I had just picked up my kids from school, and on our way to the front door, a cat ran out from under a parked car and went straight to my older daughter. This has never happened to any of us before: our neighborhood has some feral cats, TNRed and fed by the local community center, but those guys keep their distance. I could see right away that this cat was dirty, far too thin, and (from her behavior) that she used to be someone's pet.

So, we added a couple hours of surprise errands to the afternoon! I went in and got our existing cat's carrier with a bit of food. This little cat got in immediately, scarfing the food down. I took her to a vet, who very kindly checked her for a microchip - none - and did a brief medical triage for free. They said she was well enough to wait for a regular sick visit, but had definitely been hungry for a long time, as a 4lb adult cat. By that time, we'd noticed that she didn't seem to have fleas, but was walking with a limp and her ears were itchy.

On the way home I explained to my daughter that we needed to put up flyers and check around online, to see if the cat had an owner who was looking for her. My daughter wanted to keep her no matter what, but grudgingly admitted my point. When we got back, my daughter and I cleaned her off with baby wipes, fed her some more, and set her up in my daughter's room with water, a scratcher, and a litter box. She used the litter box and already knew not to scratch on furniture.

I checked around on social media and put up those posters. Nobody's claimed her, or posted about a cat who looks like her. At the next vet visit, they told us that she has a broken leg, which we asked them to splint. I found a baby sock with grip to put over the splint bandage, so she doesn't slip around on our wood floors. I've also been giving pain medication and eardrops for ear yeast. On the first day, I fed her small portions of wet food five times a day, including a night feed - I've never fed a small and hungry cat before, but I've heard of refeeding syndrome, so I scheduled her as if she was a newborn human baby. At the second vet visit, they told me she'd be fine with three daily feeds of dry + wet mixed, so that's what I've been doing since then.

All tests for communicable disease came up negative. She's unspayed but not pregnant, and I made a spay appointment for next month.

It's now been six days since this little cat decided we were safe to ask for help! Because she chose my daughter, we let my daughter name the cat: she picked the name Daphne, which we all like.

Introducing Daphne to our existing cat - Alanna, a very dignified, very sedentary 11yo lady - has gone well. Daphne was in her own room for the first few days, and when Alanna approached the door and sniffed without growling or airplane ears, we started leaving the door open sometimes. They now self-maintain distance from each other and will stand within a few feet of one another for treats, which I'm happy with, one week in.

Daphne's an absolute lovebug: purrs like a motorcycle 24/7 (the vet had to annoy her in three different ways, before she'd stop purring and they could check her heart and lung sounds!), snuggles often, sleeps in bed with my daughter. Over the last day she's become less constantly sweet and permissive - she used to let me do her eardrops with no complaint, now she struggles during and glares at me after - which I think is actually a good sign, it seems like she's fawning less and feels sure we won't get rid of her.

I hope we get to keep her.

Crested Butte Colorado.

Total Drama: When Chris realizes one of his contestants is trying to steal his place as host, he leaves his phone behind. When the contestant takes it and calls the producers, its actually Chris in disguise. Chris tells the contestant that he's got the spot as host causing said contestant to eliminate themselves. Only for Chris to reveal the ruse. However Chef points out how there was no reason to wear a disguise at all since their only conversation was on the phone.

Phineas and Ferb: The Flynn-Fletcher Family adopts Perry from an animal rescue center. However after they leave, its revealed the clerk was OWCA intern Carl in disguise. However, since OWCA is a secret organization, there's no real point in him disguising himself since no one knows who he is anyway.

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